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female
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22-25,
*erry-boo
writes:Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 weeks. I've had a hikkie or love bite on my neck for around 4 days. She only just noticed it before when we were in the shops looking down the isle. She said "why have you got a love bite on your neck?" I didn't answer her then I said I didn't know I had it. My teachers have screamed at me for it and everyone in my year has some how seen it. My mum told my dad and they are both very disappointed in me. They say it makes me look like a slag and I need more respect for myself. I didn't know it was going to upset them. They told me i cannot hang out with my boyfriend ever again so this means I'm gonna have to dump him. I really don't want to dump him and the thought of it makes me cry. Please help I don't know what to do
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (10 March 2016):
 Hi,
you are still so young and at this age and stage of your life, it'd be very hard for you to fully comprehend how your actions may be affecting those around you, especially your parents.
Why don't you sit down with your parents and have a little discussion with them about the love bite on your neck and ask them why they feel they way they do and what it is that they expect of you, as their daughter.
If you want to continue seeing your bf, then this will be up to your parents, however, you will have to let your parents know that there will be no more making out, by way of receiving love bites.
This is where, YOU MUST BE IN FULL CONTROL OF WHAT YOU DO, when you are with your bf.
It's not up to your bf, it's up to YOU.
Your parents may be afraid that one thing may lead to another, so they simply want what's best for you and they expect you to show self-respect and respect for them and for them, when you are caught with a love bite on your neck, this doesn't come across as respect.
As you are still a minor and as you still reside at home with your parents, you must show respect for them and do right by them, even if you feel they're totally restricting you in some ways.
Parenting is a tough job, so too is being a teen, however, when you grow older and finally become a parent yourself, you will only then, know how it feels.
Your parents are good parents by the sound of things and they obviously love you very much and want what's best for you, so try to be the best that you can be and do right by them too.
Tell your bf when you next see/speak to him, that there will be no more love bites and let him know how serious this is.
I wish you all the best. :-)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 I think your parents are just worried for you at such a young age. Maybe you can have a talk with your mum, tell her that you don't want to split up with your boyfriend but that you will be more careful in future that he does not leave marks on your body, then ask your boyfriend not to do that again. Try and be mature and talk to your parents. Tell them you really like him but that you won't do anything to upset them.
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