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writes:I have an issue. I am sort of dating this guy, who is 29 years old, and I am 20.He is so incredibly nice and wonderful, and I do enjoy his company and how everything is going.However I am paranoid about what my parents might think of him as they are so judgemental, because he is slightly overweight. I personally do not care if he is overweight at all, I think he is just sexy as he is. Do you think I should be afraid of what they might think or just say "whatever" and like him for who he is and what I see him as?
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reader, cd206  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 I think your real concern is that if your parents don;t like him you might start looking at him in a different light. After all you're 20 years old, hardly a child anymore, and what your parents think shouldn't mean anything to you. You're old enough to make your own mind up about this kind of thing. Introduce them and if they don't like him then it's their loss and noone elses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): Why would you be afraid of what Mom and Dad think? Hun, you are a 20 year old adult and you date whomever makes you happy and respects you. Look it-some parents go through life thinking ' no one' is good enough for their kids. Some parents are unhappy people and for whatever reasons of their own, they disapprove, they criticize and judge unfairly. This is just the way it is and it's their problem, not yours. As an adult female, you make your own decisions. Your parents have to now step aside. Parents are there to offer us support, love and opinions, if we ask for it. They are not there to further control our lives through unwarranted criticisms and judgements. If this guy makes you happy, if he loves you, then I would think any loving parent would say ...'great, we are happy for you!' Just be happy,yourself, dear and don't allow other peoples thoughts and opinions take you down. Do what's best for you.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 I think that at the age of 20 you don't need your parents approval to be with your boyfriend. On the contrary, your parents should respect your choice and be happy that you found a man to love that treats you well.
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