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writes:I know this is long but please bear with me cuz I really need help. I am beginning to hate my parents because they never listen to me and because they treat me like some kind of kid and my two other brothers are given everything they want in a second because they will start whining and after that they say that I can't get anything because we can't afford it but I know very well that we can.I have no privacy AT ALL. my room doesn't have a door because my dad said I did not need one but even after repeatedly begging him he said no. My mom tries to help but as she is in the us she cant do anything. at one point my dad had taken my phone and had looked through everything in there and he thought I did not know. He even sends my brothers to spy on me and again he thinks I do not know.He even refuses to let me clean my own room at times because I have other things to do and always does it himself and refuses to help and I just know he goes through my stuff. Today he even kicked me out of my room to talk to my mom on the phone because he was sweeping it. and he even refused to let me do it myselfMy mom spys on me online. facebook, yahoo, etc and always asks how I know this person and that person. She even forbid me to date and I can't take it. Does she think I am not mature or something?? My cousin who is just a couple months older than me is allowed to date and she has a boyfriend who is 3 years older than her. When I had stayed with them even they supported me saying I should have one.They interfere with my life. My dad never lets me talk on the phone without wanting to know who it is etc etc and whenever there is a party he makes me keep an eye on my brothers so that I can't talkt to any girls other than the ones that are my friends.I don't know what to do. The only things keeping me in control is my music and my 2 best friends (who are girls ironically) and I can't with them on yahoo and ocasionally meet up with them. Please please help me. I think I may explode at one point and just tell them to stay out of my life etc etc and Ii don't know what will happen after that...........HELP!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionooh i forgot to mention i am 15 but thats fine now. thanks for all your answers so i think i will have to talk to my parents soon but i dont know how long it is before i explode
in regards to my brothers well they are treated like royalty 70% of the time so i dont know if i can handle em.
anyway thanks again to all.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 You dont get a DOOR!?
but surely teens need privacy to do whatever.... your room should be a private place. Well I think you should get more friendly with your brothers, so its more like kids vs adults. I dont mean that in a horrible way, thats just what we do in my family, all my brothers stick up for me if parents have a go and visa versa. Surely your brothers must have gone through (or are going through) the same thing and they can hardly like it! Your parents are probaly just worried about youbut you need to show them you are responsible and not a little baby anymore. Good luck :)xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): hi
i am an indian. going thru your problem , I think You should talk to your parents about what u feel . Now one more thing . Usually parents donot behave in this unruly manner, Unless and until they find out something about you. ( i mean - u know what things u do. they must got to know something about it and so they are protecting you, and keeping a check on you so that u donot do it again. Well u only can analyze What went wrong because of which ur parents are behaving in this manner.
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Seeing ur age it shows u are still verry young for dating,
Regarding ur cousin, donot compare ur self with him . Every parent is different , Maybe his parents are fine with it. But ur parent think its not fine at ur age, Grow up a little more . I am sure ur parents will allow you when u cross 18 yrs or so.
Plzz check on yourself. Why donot you Question ur self - 'Why are my parents acting so different with me and not with my other brothers'.
Best - think about it . Clear it up with ur parents, As being there child . ask them in a polite manner. What is going on?
plzz donot tell ur parents to stay away from ur life. your parents are ur guide, They love you very much . And every parents would love to see their children walking on the right path. So that they might have a bright future. Obey them and respect them.
Now i know u are feeling really disgusted at your age. I understand. But u will surely realise it when u are really grown up and matured.
GOOD LUCK xxx
any clarification feel free to write to me.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Hellow, I think you should talk to a counsellor because your parents seem hard to reason with. You can also try and talk to relatives that are close to your parents so they can have a word with them. You are a teenager and you need your privacy. what I gather from your story, it seems to me you are mature enough to go on facebook and yahoo without your parents checking on who you are chatting to. An important quistion you should ask yourself is why are my parents treating me like a child??. whatever reason they have for treating you like this, try and prove them the opposit. Whatever reason they have I am sure they love you very much. If you don't mind could you please tell me how old you are it would be useful to know exactly because it makes a difference if you are 13,14 or 15. I could help you better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): ok i can understand why you feel like this, you either need to talk to your parents, do anything it takes to make them listen or talk to a counsellor, they always help and it is confidential. Let me know how it goes xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh and one more thing i dont come from any strict background. i am an anglo-indian so its a bit different.Editors: i dont suppose you could add this to the question. sorry for the inconvinence
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