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anonymous
writes:My parents and my best friend and some of my church hates my girlfriend. Her and I have been through alot and we dont wanna stop. You cant change how someone feels about someone else in their heart. I wont give up and I wont stop! I will do anything to be with her and it looks like ill lose my license and truck. What do I do?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Looks like yo have already discarrded the advice of those closest to you. You are proving your determination by sacrificing your property and freedoms. What can we possibly say that will help you?
There are two things you should think about. One, if you are in the minority you might not be seeing the whole story. It is typical for young men of your age to get a streak of rebelion. Be sure you are not rebeling just for your pride. Try to keep a level head. Two, people change the way they feel in their heart every day. You are correct that the change is not forced from the outside. But people do break up relationships that they thought were forever. Don't think you are imune to this.
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reader, emmaaaaa +, writes (5 May 2009):
"You cant change how someone feels about someone else in their heart"
this is exactly true.
you can't change how you feel about her.
but neither can your friends and family.
first of all, if you haven't already, then talk to these people about what it is they don't like about her.
probability is that they don't have a true, valid reason.
if that is the case then you need to explain to them and get them to understand that you love your girlfriend and you're going to be with her. if they're real friends then they should learn to accept her and at least try to make an effort with her.
i'm in this situation right now.
my boyfriend's friend's think i'm a crazy bitch and want nothing to do with me, and i've never even spoken to these people before. i've tried to get my boyfriend to ask them to give me a chance, but he wont.
having said that, i know how much it would mean to your girlfriend to just talk to them about it. i know i would love and respect my boyfriend a whole lot more if he'd do that for me.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 We need more info - why will you lose your license and truck?
Why does your community of family and friends hate this girl?
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