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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has mental issues and the more we stay together the more controlling he is becoming towards me. When we started dating, he was so much fun and exciting and did everything possible (in a good way) to make me fall for him. As we got to know each other and I opened up to him and started to fall for him, he became such an assul and took me for granted. I have been thinking about dumping him ass at any moment and I finally deciding to leave him for good.I am kind of scared of him doing something spiteful to get back at me since he has shown signs of having mental issues. Should I be concerned?P.S I don't have a supportive family to make me feel stronger about my decision. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): If you are that scared of him....go to a womens shelter! They will help you get away and stay away!
Don't minimize those threats...take it seriously.
I lived it. I know what you are going through and I know it will get worse!
Please do what you have to, to get away from him. He is a dangerous person.
You do not deserve to be treated like this.
Abusers are very good at twisting things to look as though it is your fault...but it isn't! Don't let him convince you that it is!
Find the help you need! Get away!
Good Luck and God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): "Do you live in Pa?? Sounds like my ex!! All kidding
Aside.. Just end it nicely. If he goes postal
Then get a restraining order!
Turn to close friends who can help you.
Or call women's shelter who can support
You if he gets abusive. Do not stay in this
Situation. Get out now! Trust your instinct!"
I don't live in PA. I tried explaining to him how I felt about our current relationship in a nice way and how he is verbally abusing me. He was trying to twist it around in a funny way how it wasn't his fault for 25 mins of verbally abusing me (not the fist time)
His ex gave him a restraining order (which I found out later) and he is constantly talking about her...how one day he will get revenge. In the beginning I thought he was joking around...but as he brought up the topic again and again...he makes it sound very real. He also mentioned that if i ever cheated on him...he will pay someone thro acid on my face and i would never be able to look normal again.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Does he have mental issues - has he been diagnosed?
What bothers me most is that you say he's controlling toward you.
Men use abuse to gain control over women and other people, and it does escalate.
Why stay in a relationship if he makes you unhappy/ Good God, girl! Get out and find someone new - only this time , find someone who is kinder and more appreciative.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (5 May 2009):
 Do you live in Pa?? Sounds like my ex!! All kidding
Aside.. Just end it nicely. If he goes postal
Then get a restraining order!
Turn to close friends who can help you.
Or call women's shelter who can support
You if he gets abusive. Do not stay in this
Situation. Get out now! Trust your instinct!
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