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writes:I am in a few year relationship and have discovered that I have a much higher sex drive than my partner (we're a gay couple). I get so horny and just want to have sex but he isn't interested as often as I am and fobs me off with either no reason or an unjustifiable reason.What should I do? I would never cheat, but I end up getting so discontent and eventually realise he won't want to have sex and without him knowing wank off to porn off the internet. I sometimes feel that this is a form of cheating and am quite sure he would be offended and maybe even angry if he knew I did this (SO in summery I feel I shouldn't be doing this). When we have sex I enjoy it so much and would love to do it again right away or the next day - but he seems to have had his quoter and its back to either waiting or wanking for a quite a while. It just gets to the point that I can hardly handle it and start getting grumpy and cranky (and then I think well that isn't fair for me to be cranky towards him so I wank off and return my mood back to normal). If I don't cum regulalry it starts happening in my sleep. By the way I am well and truely past puberty and have read that some men experience wet dreams in adulthood.I just don't know what to do. I think if I were to talk about this with my partner that he'd not be happy with what I have to say and also that I'd sound like a bit of a bastard.Sorry If I've made this too long. I only just noticed the don't make your question too long tip on the side of the screen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had no idea my message would get given such a harsh sounding title!
Thank you Camille for your response.
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reader, camille  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 As your sex drive is much higher than your partner, it's difficult because you aren't suited in one area that's so important to you. All relationships should be about compromise and if he can't agree to more sex, (and you don't demand too much from him), you should talk to him. The thing is, why are you using porn to masturbate? You said that it feels like cheating. Can't you use your memories? Fantasies? He may feel porn is a betrayal, but somewhere in your head, you are connecting it to cheating too. So maybe you could ask him to pose for photos or video yourselves, then at least he'll know it's him you want even though he isn't actually getting physical. If you tell him that you masturbate about him control your urges, he'll see that at least you're not cheating. Good Luck.
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