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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I've met this guy on an internet dating website - I know people often have a lot of preconceptions about internet dating but I find it an easier way to get to know someone than meeting them on a night out. And for the record I'm not on there because I'm ugly or have no personality lol.Anyway I'd been chatting to this guy on msn/phone every day for the past few weeks and we were due to meet for our first date this fri. In conversation it turned out he knows my ex eho i also met on a dating website and my ex lived in another city so of course this guys next question was how did i meet my ex. I was totaly honest because I'm one of them people who thinks lies/secrets will cause problems in relationships. He asked why we broke up too which again i was completely honest about and I think is why he wont talk to me now.I'd been with my ex for a few months so I decided to go on the pill but before that i had a full STI screening which came back totally negative. We slept together without protection but then i had a pregnancy scare from when the condom had split before I'd started the pill. So I went to the clinic to do a pregnancy test and the nurse offered to use the rest of my urine sample for a chlamydia test so I thought yeah why not I've got nothing to lose. The second test came back positive though. When I told my ex about my result he went really mad at me and then stopped talking to me at all. I've had treatment and am all clear now which this new guy knows.Since I told this new guy that, he's ignored me. I know it was maybe a bit naiive of me to tell him but I didn't want to have secrets. I'm me and I can't help what's happened in the past. I hate that he's judged me on something that's happened before I even knew him.I really reallly want to call him to find out what he's thinking and just basically to talk it out and get some peace of mind. I find it sooo hard not knowing for certain where I stand and stupidly I'm still hoping he'll still want to be with mePlease help - I don't know what to do and I'm going crazyxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I agree with the previous posting;
unfortunately too much information to soon;
This guy probably got a big fright and decided to back off;
try and reverse the situation; what would you have done if he told you that?
give him time; he might get around and contact you again, but if not; learn from this and MOVE ON.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): I would leave him alone and take it as a lesson learned. Maybe next time you shouldn't give out too much information. I mean I know you like to be honest, and you should be, but there are just some things that are better left unsaid. Its the same as talking about "gross" stuff when you are trying to impress a guy. Like telling him what brand of toilet paper you use to wipe your ass. They all know you go to the bathroom but it doesn't mean they want to hear about it. As long as you were all cured and your std would pose no threat or harm to this new guy, I would have not even mentioned it.
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