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writes: I've been communicating with a guy on the net who had also been communicating with another lady before me but he said they are friends like he and I. We have never met but he has met her (2 months before we started communicating). I recently found out that they have been discussing whether or not to have a long distance relationship because he will be living the county (military) for 2 yrs. They decided not to. But he said he doesn't have a problem with having a long distance relationship (if we want to when after we meet). He has wanted to meet me since we started communicating. But he had to leave the country suddenly the weekend after we were supposed to meet. He calls me every week. He seems like a great guy (we get along great). He seems like he has been pretty upfront with me. I don't want to be second choice. I also don't want to end the relationship and miss out on a great guy because of insecurities. He will be back from this current trip in about 3 months. He will be here for about 2 months; he wants to meet me then. He recently told me, she had an idea that even though they aren't going to have a long distance relationship she wants to go on a short trip (3 or 4 days) as just friends when he gets back before he leaves again. I thought about trying to see him as soon as he gets back (before their trip), maybe have a romantic picnic on the first date. Should I continue on my path and give it a chance or assume I'm second choice (second to her...if she wanted to have a long distance relationship then they would and we wouldn't) and give up now? Sorry So Long
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reader, Ruth +, writes (27 April 2005):
Sorry to say this, but it sounds like a bit of a sleaze!!! I think you should be really careful here, maybe he's trying to make you feel secure by making up a story that he's got someone else that's interested. It does seem like he's leaving his options open otherwise. It's possible to meet great people on the internet, at the same time you can meet equally terrible people. I would be very wary and ask him what his game is regarding you and this other lady! Whatever happens, TAKE CARE!
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