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writes:Ive been with my bf for 2 yrs now. On and off. We break up alot, then get back together. We fight all the time about nothing. I found out he's been cheating on me with his ex. Don't know if i really believe her though, since we have never liked each other. Like every 3 mos. something happened between them. I took him back because we are close and i really want him. I found all this out Jan. 10th. We just got back together Feb 7th. He sent me a message on my facebook for Valentines Day "I love you so so much, i appreciate and need you, cant wait to see you. mwah." This is the 1st time we'll be together again in over a month and a half. Im going down for the long weekend today. The last time i was down there, all we did was fight. I just want to know what he means when he says he appreciates, and needs me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): Tell him to get lost! Sorry to sound so blunt, but i think you are his comfort blanket. I don't agree with 'luvme' - people don't have 'relationships' with more than one person. You should be the most important person in his life, unless there are kids involved, but even then you should be at the top right alongside them. You say you fight a lot. What about? I really doesn't sound like the kind of relationship i would want to be in. Life is too short and you shouldn't be argueing all the time. How do you know he had an affair with his ex? did she say? Talk to him and explain how you feel and let him know how YOU want things to be! Be strong and get this sorted. If it doesn't sort then move on.
Take care and keep in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): Possibly, you are his emotional comfort, while his ex is his physical comfort. With that said, despite your worries, you will continue to accept him back even if he cheats on you a hundred more times. However, only you can make the choice to stop with this. Otherwise, live with it.
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 You have to figure out if you are okay dating someone who has a girl on the side or not. Most guys who cheat continue to cheat, and no matter what you say or do, it won't change who they are. You can just chose to ignore it and be fine with it, or find someone else. When he tells you that he appreciates you and needs you, I think that he is being honest, but that doesn't mean that he is not feeding the same lines to his ex girlfriend as well. People can have relationships with more then one person at the same time & care about them both. I am not saying that it is right, but it happens. You have to decide if he is worth it or not.
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