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anonymous
writes:I am 35 yo, and my gf is 42...i know big age difference..but we love eachother...I just can't escape the feeling that she is cheating though. She lives 2 hours away and we see eachother three to four days a week. I will catch her getting text messages and holding the phone away from me and sending a text quickly and closing the phone. To further make me wonder...she has mentioned a "good friend" from another state that is coming to visit in july..this scares me! mostly because I know there is not alot of sleeping arangements at her house. so he would have to sleep on the couch or in her bed....see my point? dont think he will be on the couch since he has not been laid for quite a while and he has easy access to my girlfriend! they have had sexual relations, and he is now divorced....she wants him to stay over for three or four days and to go out and have fun as "friends" again I dont like this! she said she would introduce me to him but she wants to go to the movies and dinner without me to spend "Quality time" with her friend. just recently, she told me she had another guy friend that picks her up sometimes and takes her to dinner, and talks...havent met him either! Tell me am I wrong or insecure to think that something might happen? she was very angry when I expressed my opinion about him. and she said I was being controlling and childish???!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 She obviously does not see your relationship as a permanent fixture in her life or her bedroom, therefore the door is still wide open and invitations are still being sent out to other men. My guess is, she's not looking for something serious, or anything exclusive with anyone(Not even you). Since you don't even live in the same town, she sees no reason to give up her freedom. It could be that you each have very different opinions about the whole girlfriend/boyfriend arrangement. I do think the guy she invited will be having sex with her, as well as others she has probably had over in your absence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): You are not over-reacting, your just worried! Everyone experiences where there girlfriends or boyfriends, seem to be spending alot of time with there male or female friends. If I were you I would sit her down and tell her how you feel about the whole situation, without seeming over protective and controlling. Tell her it is okay for her to hang with her friends but you feel uncomfortable about all the secretive texts and her friend sleeping in her house, Knowing about all the past relations. But do expect her to get angry, thats how us women are. But hopefully for the better of your relationship, she will take your concerns into consideration.
God bless!!!
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