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writes:I've always dated older guys but now my family think i should date guys my age. They usually are 10 years older than me. Do you really think age ain't nothing but a number? I'm currently dating a guy that has a girlfriend but now i want more but he thinks i'm not ready to settle because i'm young. What is up with that? I wasen't young when he wanted to sleep with me so why does he feel that way now? Do you think he is using that as an excuse so he wouldn't have to put more into waht we already have?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): you are a dumb slut them older guys only want what they couldnt get when they were your age and you bitches want money stick to ure own age fuckin sluts AFFA
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Hey girl.
I'm am also with an older man. I am 22 and he is 32. I am going to try and help you understand. My boyfriend also thinks the same thing as yours- but for my own sake. He tells me that he knows there are younger guys out there and he wants me to know without a doubt that I want to be with him and him only. So don't think that it is just for sex. He could be insecure about his age and that you may grow to want to date a younger guy. He may really love you and just wants to make sure that you will be ready if the time comes to settle down with him. You just need to assure him there is a reason you are with him and that love does not know age.
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reader, BabyGurl27 +, writes (23 August 2008):
BabyGurl27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust for the record, We've been kicking for 5 years. The other lady come in and out of his life therefore she wasen't with him when we started off. He claim that he don't CALL her a GIRLFRIEND he always use the term BABYMOM. So he ws not in a relationship when we hook up but i can't understand why he always allow her back in his life. I no they have a kid together but why she have to be 1st in his life (she is very hateful to him but why he still except her?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): Everybody insists that age is nothing but a number, and then spends the second half of the sentence describing all the problems that the age difference is causing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): love...i think you answered it yourself. He's using it as an excuse so there is no more to what yous already have. He's already in a relationship and if he's saying that you're too young to settle down with...then obviously he's just with you for the sex and nothing else. Dismiss him and tell to come back down to earth and stop sleeping with other girls but his "own" girlfriend..otherwise leave her. p.s. you shouldn't be sleeping with guys who have girlfriends either. Not a nice thing to do.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (23 August 2008):
 Older guys can be a great experience for a younger girl. (I know. I've BEEN one for some over the past couple of years ... said he, modestly.) But you need to find a guy who is really open and available and is looking for a relationship with YOU, not just looking for some hot action on the side while holding down a more permanent gig with some gal his own age as well.
Drop this guy like a hot potato. Forget about your family's objections ... they're not important. But you need to dump this turkey for yourself. You're not going to get anything stable out of him except a spot as second fiddle to his real girlfriend and a lot of tired lines about how it's you he really wants but ... If you want some more of that text, I'll bet there are dozens of women here who can write that script from memory, because guys (especially married guys) have been using it since forever on their gals-on-the-side. They promise everything, but in the end they stay with their wives or whatever, and the "other woman" (that would be you) is always left out.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (23 August 2008):
 You're dating a guy that has a girlfriend? And you are wondering if this is just an excuse? It seems obvious to me that he dosnt want to leave his current girlfriend for you and, yes, he is using the age thing as an excuse (which is pointless because that fact that he is takin is a good enough excuse by itself). I'd move on if I were you, and try to stick with guys that are single. And, I hope you are aware that what you "have" with him is a booty call friendship, nothing more.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (22 August 2008):
 Personally i don't think that age matter's a great deal, and the end of the day its only a number. In a relationship how a couple feel about one another far supersedes how many number are between them. However i really don't think you should be dating this guy, not because of his age, but because he already has a girlfriend. This guy is most certainly getting his cake and eating it, and it will go on like this for as long as you let it. As far as he is conserned its happy days, he has got 2 woman on the go. I would end this now before it continues any further, anyway if he got with you how would you ever know he was not seeing someone else behind your back?.
All the best x
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