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*abyGurl27
writes:Hi everyone!! Well here goes, I have a guy friend and been together for about 5 years.(sex partners/ care about each other) On the other hand, he has a girlfriend/babymom that come in and out of his life and take him through HELL. They planning a wedding which didn't work because of a fight they had gotten in to that cause her to break up his things in the house. He has an 11 year old son by this CRAZY lady. He will do anything for his son which he loves to death. The lady use their son to get what she wants from him. Well all the fighting and fussing they been through, she still can come and go and will pick her over me. He told me that he don't love her. I want out of this crap but something keep telling to hold on and wait. How long do i have to wait, another 5 years? Now that he was going to married her i've lost some feeling that i have for him. He use to call twice a week now i haven't hear from him in 1 week. I'm so mad that if he do decide to call me i don't no if i should answer or not what should i do?
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reader, BabyGurl27 +, writes (25 August 2008):
BabyGurl27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, he didn't ask her to married him(even though it doesn't make things better) she found out about me so is decide to push the issue and make him marrie her. We've always hook up like maybe 3 times a week. Its not like once a while we have sex. It was like a relationship but he just never committed anything to be so i saw it like being sex partners
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Your post brings up all kinds of red flags, that suggests to me that you are indeed wasting your time. You present as aged 26-29 (overage) and currently living in the USA. You have a "guy friend", you both care about each other and sometimes have sex. You have made no promises, there is no commitment between you, you are not boyfriend and girlfriend, you are nothing more than friends who sometimes have sex. Whilst his been with you, he has asked another woman to marry him. This dosen't sound good, you are just somebody he has sex with and tells his troubles too, he dosen't think of you as a wife, he dosen't think of you as a girlfriend. I don't know what your waiting for, because it dosen't seem as he has anything to give you except good sex.
Him and the mother of his baby have a relationship, they have a child, they fight, they make promises, they try to have a commitment and are talking about marriage. You on the other hand don't really have any influence here. Your just a friend, that is kind enough to have sex. What are you waiting for, he's never promised you love, he's not promised you a relationship, he's not promised you anything at all. Are you waiting for her to go, do you think he will turn to you then. He might, just for the sex and the understanding, but your not girlfriend material. If he can't be with her, he'll find somebody else to love and it won't be you. He's had you, he knows you, but he dosen't fall in love. Yes your wasting your time for a guy who has no romantic feelings and is using you for the kindness you provide. Find somebody else, find a guy who can love you and treat you right. Sleeping with a friend is a stupid thing to do, you will be the one left out when he finds somebody to love and settle down with.
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