My office friends seem to have 'dumped' me

A female , anonymous writes:

I hope someone can help me out here. I was friends with the secretarial staff at the company where I work.We would meet for coffee once a week and it was great. I had recently broken up with my boyfriend of eight years and it was great to have them. I guess the bottom line is that they dumped me. Of the four of them there are two who I know still appreciate and like me but it seems as if they are afraid to be pleasant to me because of peer pressure from the other two. We are not teenagers here. Apparently there big complaint is that they would ask me for coffee sometimes and I would be a bit late. I am a manager and things come up...that is it apparently and now I am taking less than professional behaviour from a couple of them. I do not want to aak them what I did wrong as this would empower them and honor their childishness and give them fuel for gossip but it is so demoralizing and hurtful. I do not even want to go into the main office where they work now. I guess the days that my self esteem is good I am ok with it and on days like today I feel like I cannot handle it. Just wondering if anyone has been in this situation before and if anyone has tips on how to handle this painful situation.

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