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writes:the daughter of my wives elder sister, a mature 50year old single woman, never married, when we meet which is not regular, at the moment, but we are moving closer, I notice has started kissing me full on the mouth when we meet.nothing is said but these kisses seem to linger longer on her part. I am confused not sure what this means if anything, anybody have any ideas, I never could understand women.[Mod note: poster's age is mid-60s]
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 I know you're not Richard Dawson and this isn't the Family Feud, so we can rule that out. Also, unless kissing on the mouth is a family tradition as it is in some cultures, then this has to be dealt with.
The first person you tell is your wife, no ifs, ands, or buts. She is the very first person you tell, or a story can get twisted with you looking like a dirty old man and a niece and sister accusing you of lying. You also tell your wife to get input on whether or not this is innocent. Your wife would know whether or not her sister raises the family to be kissy/huggy/feely to rule out misunderstandings.
Then, you talk to the niece who is of age and ask her nicely that you prefer a kiss on the cheek because that makes you more comfortable. Unless her motives are off, she'll comply without a lot of awkwardness.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (4 August 2014):
 I guess it could be perceived as innocent, but I wouldn't view it at such. It sounds like someone likes to live dangerously. I'd stop this behavior RIGHT NOW. I don't think your wife would take too kindly to it. To be perfectly frank, I think the niece is being very disrespectful. If you go in for a hug, make sure you turn your head the other way so she can't kiss you on the mouth. Do not encourage this behavior in any way shape or form. Even if its totally innocent on your part you could find yourself in alot of trouble!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): If your wife is still around, it means she's being frisky and stepping out of line. If you still have a wife and love her; it shouldn't mean anything to you.
Next time she's in your face; try offering her your cheek. Stop rushing in for a kiss. Your wife will eventually notice, and she'll want to know what's up with YOU?!! Always willing and ready for a kiss on the mouth. Show some respect for your wife, man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): Why are you allowing it? Dodge it and make it a cheek kiss. Some people do kiss family on the lips, but people who find it uncomfortable just offer their cheek or just a hug.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (4 August 2014):
 I would say this is unusual, for a woman of that age kissing you on the mouth. Also as this is your WIFES SISTERS DAUGHTER it makes it all the more un-comfortable. However the thing I am worried about is why are you, a married man, kissing her on the lips in the first place? Does you wife or her sister know about this? Is this just when you two are alone or when she is infront of her mother and your wife? If this is when she is alone with you, it is kinda wrong, and to be honest as you are already thinking that it could be more, suggests that you are maybe thinking of being unfaithful to your wife? And I can tell you straight away if you are thinking of that, then STOP. Cheating is bad enough, but cheating with somebodys family member, leaves deep emotional scars which can never be healed, it breaks up families and relationships. If however she kisses you infront of your wife, it is obvious your wife thinks its nothing more than a friendly hello kiss, but it still doesn't mean its right. You are already wondering what this could mean, and you have feelings she could have something for you, so regardless of whether she does or doesn't you should just stop kissing her all together. Try and give her a friendly hug maybe or a kiss on the cheek when you next meet her, if she keeps trying to kiss you on the lips take her to one side and explain that it makes you feel uncomfortable and you would prefer if she didn't do that. Even though this might seem like a pretty innocent thing, stuff like this can lead to other roads which you don't want to go down, as when family is invovled it becomes an extremely forbidden line to cross.
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