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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: I have known this very beautiful and fun woman in my neighborhood for about ten years. We have been friends and have enjoyed doing many things together. I am 20 and she is 35. About a year ago she was divorced and her ex is not in the picture. She has not dated much since. As I said I thinks she is very beautiful, creative, sexy, and fun. I have thought that she was hot for years. At night I often dream of her and I together. A few weeks ago after swimming in her pool we went into the living room to talk. One thing lead to another. First we were saying sexy words, petting, kissing, and undressing. Next we had sex in her living room. I enjoyed it very much. It was beautiful, fun, satisfying, and passionate. Since then I have mention to her that I really enjoyed being physical with her. I have also mention more than a few times that I would like to do it again with her in her bed. Where we could have more time and unleash our passion. Every time I have told her that I would like to have sex (and make love) to her again I see that she face lights up and has a cute grin on. However she often chances the subject. During one of our past conversations she did say that she enjoyed our sex and it was needed. I want to talk more to her about my sexual wants with her However, I do not want to always be talking about it. How often should I bring up this topic? How can I get her to talk about it? Most importantly what recommendation would you have for me getting her and I in her bedroom for a time of passionate uninhibited sex? Sometime it seems that I will never get to sleep with her. What are my chances? How can I make it happen? I appreciate your time.
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reader, mama2three  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 The fact that, as soon as you mention it, she changes the subject tells me that maybe she wasn't so sure it was a good idea. Maybe she feels a bit guilty?? She's known you for a *long* time and that can be awkward, and maybe hard to accept that you are a grown man with manly needs.
I don't know, but the fact that she changes the subject indicates that maybe she's embarrassed about your first encounter or she's uncomfortable with the idea of another sexual encounter with you.
So, in plain english, it sounds like maybe she feels like she made a mistake.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (31 December 2007):
 What exactally do you want this woman for? Sex and sex alone? Not many women want to be Mrs. Robinson and that is how you are treating her.
Do you like this woman for any other qualities? Do you want a normal relationship with her or do you just want sex. If you just want sex I think her response is "this is flattering." But sex for most women is a beautiful part of a complete relationship.
If you want a relationship with this woman you are sending her a wrong message by always talking about sex. I guess to me you need to state your intentions and we can help you from there.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Dont keep asking, she may start thinking your harassing her. Just try and kiss her, if she dosen't respound then you got your answer, she may have seen the sex as a one off thing.
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