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36-40,
*ndy00
writes:Hi,I recently asked a question regarding my ex-girlfriend and my new girlfriend. My new girlfriend wanted me to change my facebook status to "In A Relationship" after dating her for just a couple of weeks. I met her less than a week after me and a girl I was seeing during the summer holidays ended our relationship because we both had universities to return to, and we knew things wouldn't work out.I was worried about upsetting my ex by changing my status so soon after we broke up. But my new girlfriend pressured me into changing my status, saying that I was considering my ex more than I was considering her.Following the majority of the advice I received, I changed my status. It turns out that my ex isn't that bothered about it, which I suppose is a good thing. But her friends are having a go at me, and saying that I'm inconsiderate and a waste of space... I'm not taking it too well. I try so hard to make people happy and get along with people, and now my ex isn't talking to me and her friends are dragging my name through the mud. I don't think I deserve it.How do I cope with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): Steady on people,
When people break up then thats it , its over. His ex GF may have a right to feel upset , but she doesnt. Her friends have absolutley no right whatsoever to give him a hard time. they werent in the relationship and should keep quiet about it now.
As for placing his status on facebook, thats a person right and entitlement to do so. Why should he walk on egg shells just because he had to break up with one girl and then met another one?
Listen Dude, As long as you are not hurting anyone, your not mis-treating or dis-respecting anyone then you do what you like. Tell her friends that they are entitled to their opinions but that they dont know what they are talking about. As for your new GF if she is that insecure then it may be time to take a break from women for a while.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 October 2009):
Well your ex isn;t bothered, which is great. It's her friends who are. I'm afraid you've just got to take the beating. It won't last forever. He friends obviously aren't all that mature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Hey man,sorry you're in this mess but,frankly speaking,what you did was wrong.No matter how much you were pressured you never should have succumbed cos i think you opinion should matter in your relationship and,let face it,you new gf has no good intention cos if she does she would not spend time bothering you with meaningless things like this but would rather work out ways to get you're trust.You wouldnt need her then to pressurize you into changing your status or doing anything else in favor of her.
I think you should find a way to apologize to your ex and her friends cos they've got every right to be angry,let them know how it all happened.They definitely would forgive you.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): You should have just removed all information about your love life from public view, that would have avoided this problema nd not insulted your new girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Hey man sorry to hear this,
well I may be harsh here and if I am PM me and you can give out but time to be a man and explain to your current GF that status on facebook doesnt matter a damn, secondly as long as your GF is okay about it and you have acted honourably then you have nothing to be ashamed about it.
If her friends confront you about it directly Id keep my peace and not confront them, maintain your dignity.
Its tough because Im sure you still like your ex, but thats life and thats what moving on is about. Hang in there dude, you will be okay, the people that care about you wont care what her friends have to say.
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