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writes:I'm 16, my mum knows me and my boyfriend have sex, she wont let me stay round his house, ive tried everything! She let me stay round once on new years, its his birthday in 2 weeks and i have to stay round! Ive written letters, begged, threatened! There is no reasoning with her! HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Well you are at the age of having sex, so if you did have sex she couldnt do anything, but you ARE still living in her house, and it is her rules to be honest. Try winning her round, by helping out alot round the house.
Good luck babe xxxx
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reader, GreenTea  +, writes (20 July 2007):
child said it best "Part of growing up and transitioning between being a teenager and an adult is the constant re-drawing of boundaries."
im in this stage. Coming out the other side. you just have to show them your mature in other areas. Keep your room clean. clean your car. make dinner once in a while.
I clean my room, keep the bathroom and loft clean. wash the cars. mow the lawn, trim the fence border, clean the fountain, make meals, drive my brother around, wash all the dishes, do my own laundry, keep the computers working, and the constant running of errands for the parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): im sorry but you are not going to like my response. im 20 and have run into the same scenario with my mother. i wanted to stay at my bfs house overnight but she was against it. she told me because i was 18 it was my decision but know she dis-aproves of it. i still slept over and she eventually got over it, but the difference is i was an adult. you are still a minor and living in your moms house. it is her rules until you are 18 and well its her rules until you are out of her house and on your own. so just respect her decision instead of possibly making the situation worse. if you want to prove that you are a responsible young adult, then sit down and talk with her and express your feelings in a mature manor and let her tell you her reasonings then say you accept them and respect them, and hope for her to be more willing with future opportunities like this.
sorry hun but its not the end of the world.
good luck
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reader, childof1981 +, writes (20 July 2007):
 Part of growing up and transitioning between being a teenager and an adult is the constant re-drawing of boundaries. Right now you still feel that you need to ask you mothers permission to stay over at your boyfriends, that is the assumption thats causing problems.
The first step in resolving that is to assert that it is not her decision to make, be willing to discuss any discomfort she might have but make it 100% clear that while you will consider her input it's not her decision anymore. Also, mention that this is not an act of "blind teenage rebellion", but rather you have realized that there are areas of your life you need to take ownership of. Be calm, assertive, and clear about what you mean and things will work out right.
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