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writes:*sighs* I'm a terrible flirt. I thought I'd get that established. Even on minimum-flirt level, I seem to be flirting outrageously to everyone else so I can only guess what I'm like when I turn it up onto 'Full Power'!I have been going out with this guy for about six months. We had a kind of.. cool-off period for a while but then he asked me to go steady again and I said that I would.The cool-off was my idea, and I had cheated on him about three weeks before, which I regret. (3rd base)We got back together about two months ago, and it was really good.*sighs* The only problem is that about three weeks ago, I was out at the local pub with his best friend who I am very close to. (You can see where this is going, can't you? So did I, that's why I feel so guilty!!!) I'm a very huggy, very.. touch-feely type of person, which I also know can come over as being flirty, but we'd been fine. I always flirt with him and it's just a bit of a laugh.It was kareoke night at the pub, and whilst he doesn't have a great voice, he sang something - Boyzone's No Matter What, and he kept looking over at me. He then walked me home; it was 4am and I don't live in a very nice part of town, so I was pleased.. but then we started making out and his hands began to wander. I managed to stop him.. or rather, myself from getting carried away, since it really isn't fair on my boyfriend or on this other guy, but since then, the two have spoken and his best friend told him that he was starting to get real feelings for me. I haven't really seen him since, mainly because we're both so busy.. but I haven't a clue what to do!! Can anyone give me any advice? It'll kill my boyfriend if he finds out!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know it's not great grounds.. I'm such a bitch, I know I am.
*sighs* I think I've decided that I have to end this thing with my boyfriend although it's going to seem totally like I'm doing it for the wrong reasons. If I play it right, it wonj't hurt him as much, but on Friday, I had a house party and he got plastered. He was chundering within 2 hours of starting to drink and I spent the next hour with him until he fell asleep. The thing is, he was saying how much I mean to him and how scared he is that he's going to lose me. If just makes me feel even worse. I went to second base with the best friend that night and when we woke up, my good friend knew about me and this other guy. My boyfriend suspects something and my friend has had to over for my on two occasions already and I can't kep asking her to do that for me...
I spoke to the best mate about what my boyfriend had said and he just asked me how I felt about my boyfriend and the thing is that in the past things have happened and I guess that I don't fall in love half as easily as he has done with me.
I need a little more excitement in my life, I'm too flighty and flirty to stick with just one guy. For the moment, at least.
The best friend is the most loyal person I know. If anyone did anything to hurt me or my boyfriend, he'd be straight in there... but now he's telling me about all these feelings he has for me and where my boyfriend is concerned, I think those feelings are blining him.
I'm just getting myself into more trouble, aren't I?
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reader, finchy +, writes (20 July 2007):
 well, to be honest i dont think you should be going out with your boyfriend. you say you have cheated on him before.. it isnt really good grounds for a relationship. You said you were making out.. so you didnt stop straight away.. what you should have done was slap him... i did that when someone tried to kiss me and i have a boyfriend.but you also say that it was with his best friend... i dont think this guy is a very loyal friend... im just this moment back in from the pub with my boyfriends best pal.. if he had tried it on i would have gave him i slap n told my boyfriend what kind of pal he has...i think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and explain the situation with him... what if someone had seen you and reports back to him//.. if you love eachother thigs will work themselfs out..
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