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writes:HiIm 18 years old and my soon to be husbund is 31 we have known each other for nearly 2 years and have been dating for 16 months and living together for 8, i have had a very difficult childhood,father died when i was 14, mum trying to kill her self, and i also suffer from bipolar, in which case me and my mother have had a few issues to say the least, now she is saying she will not go to my wedding and thinks my fiancee is too old for me. How can i make her see that i love him and make her come to the wedding, which is in june.please help me!x
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (10 November 2009):
first of all i want to wish you all the best for the big day and i'll bet you will have an amazing day.there is noway of making your mum come but maybe you could try and change her point of view about your partener,make her see how much you mean to eachother.orsimply detatch yourself from her and just worry about yourself concentrate on your big day and your future.she'll come around,"absence makes the heart grow fonder".??good luckk
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 Unfortunately there is no way of "making" her go to the wedding, but you could tell her that you understand that she doesn't approve of your choice in partners but that you love her very much still and would like very much to have her by your side at your wedding because you're not getting married to spite her.
She may come around to it in her own time, before the wedding, but there are no guarantees. For whatever reason she isn't happy with this man and as a mother she see's nothing wrong with scalding her child, although she might be biting off her nose to spite her face here.
Just let her know that whatever she decides to do, whether it be to avoid your wedding or to attend, you will still be her daughter either way and will care for her regardless.
You have to make your own decisions, but so does she. I just hope that those decisions cross paths for your wedding.
Good luck. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Just kep telling her that you need her there and she will see reason.
Best wishes for your special day
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