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writes:I'm 13 years old. A few weeks ago I met the most amazing boy in the world, let's call him Jack. He is such a player but I really can't stop thinking about him, I was meant to meet him last week but I was on my period the next day, so when I told him he lost all interest in me. He's 4 years older than me and he is 18 two days after I turn 14. When we met, we kissed, even though it's the only time we met and we haven't met since. One week he likes me and the next week he doesn't and makes me feel rubbish. He talks to his friends about me who put him off me because of the age difference which is really upsetting but then I met this other boy, let's call him Sam. He is such a great guy and calls me beautiful/gorgeous with every chance he gets but even though I want to like him, I can't, even though we kissed when we first met. My mum has recently read dirty text messages on my phone from Jack and has told his dad at a school reunion about them and told me that if I have anything to do with him she is going to see him or his mum to stay away from me. I really can't seem to take much more of this and at times I want to run away from all of this. I have no idea what to do. It's confusing me so much and I feel like I'm all alone in this situation. xx
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reader, WhiteKnight +, writes (30 March 2009):
 I agree with the others, even though you may not want to hear it. No matter how mature you are for your age, you're at an age where certain things are still in appropriate - despite society. Your mother is right, and her reaction is a natural and correct one.If I found such texts on my daughters phone (if I had one) at that age, I'd have reacted a lot worse to be honest with you. I'd go round to his door. Your parents are being protective, and they are right to be.Text, by all means, but keep it appropriate. It may be hard, but trust your parents judgement on this - because no matter how mature you think you are, at your age your parents really DO know whats best for you.
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reader, Msblessed  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 You might not want to hear it but your mom is just trying to do what is best for you. Just stay away from those boys and start off fresh with a clean slate. You'll meet other boys that you will like just as much.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Is Sam closer to your age? If he is I suggest he is a better option than Jack who just wants sex with you.
There is nothing wrong with dating someone older than you, but at 18 he'll want different things than you do, not to even start on the legal issues.
If he actually respects you he'd wait till you were at least 16 before trying anything on, the fact that he is sending you dirty messages and goes off you when you are on your period, tells me he only wants one thing and doesn't care where he gets it from.
This guy sounds like bad news and your Mum is absolutely right in what she has said and done so far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): I completely agree with satindesire. And good for your mum!Kiddo, this is a tough and confusing time in your life, a time when we're likely to make bad decisions. Good parents stop us from doing things that will hurt us, and put up with the hurt and anger they get in return. Your mum's doing her job -- recognizing that Jack's bad news and keeping you apart.Sorry, I know that's not the answer you wanted.
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