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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months and I know its not very long but I am very much in love with him and we have recently started having sex. However, my mum is a very prude person and I can't even talk about us sleeping in the same bed (I live on my own in a flat) without her saying she doesn't want to know! she makes me feel like it is wrong!I am just wondering to any girls out there if they are able to talk about it with their mother? I am not saying I want to discuss my whole sex life but i will be on the phone to her and she will ask is your boyfriend staying over and im like shall i say yes will she make me feel awkward because obviously we will be in the same bed!I don't have many girlfriends so my mum is literally my best friend :( and when I lost my virginity to my last boyfriend I tried talking to her before doing it because I was scared and didn't know if it was too soon and she went ape swear I committed a crime, just need advice1I am not very experienced in that department I have only had two partners and I don't know what happens like at the moment I want to pee all the time but can't and I have no one to talk to im too scared to tell her!
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reader, person12345  +, writes (25 January 2012):
 Maybe you could buy her a box set of Sex and the City to watch through, could desensitize her a little!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice i would never push her at all! but i do feel awkward with her like she will phone me first thing in the morning and ask where J and im like ummmmm hes here, just feels weird lol and yeh been to the doctors on anti biotics!
I am not an open person about sex either but my mum seems to have a phobia I am not even allowed to mention that we sleep in the same bed even though the majority of the time bugger all happens! just sometimes it slips like ill say ohhh me and J slept lovely lastt night..and shes lk i dont wanna know :S
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 January 2012):
 Sounds like a UTI... you need to get to a doctor and pee in a cup for a culture... s/he will give you an antibiotic (usually Bactrim) and something called pyridium for the urge....
until then sitting in a warm bath of water helps...
btw when my mom got inappropriate with her questions about my sex life I blew her away with an answer. She called one morning and asked where i was the night before and told her "out getting laid"
she got very quiet... and then I told her "do NOT ask a question you are not ready to hear the answer of"
it was the advice of a therapist to help me distance myself from a mother that was overly close to me as an adult. and it worked.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 January 2012):
A sensation of needing to pee all the time can be caused by a urinary tract infection, so you need to go to a doctor to get some antibiotics if that's the case.
I talk pretty openly with my mom about sex, but I don't think that's the norm and you shouldn't push your mom to have that kind of relationship if she doesn't offer it.
The better way to fix this is to make friends. Ask some women at your work out for drinks, do things like that. Maybe your mom is being prude, but it's not fair to force her to think about you having sex if she isn't comfortable with it. You need to make girlfriends to talk to, not make your mom into your girlfriend.
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