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writes:i really love this guy i know for 2 years. i want to have sex with him, he does too. but my problem is that my mom will give me $950 if i keep it till i'm 17 or 18. wat should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): I say honour your Mum's wishes and wait until you are 17 but tell her to stick her money as you won't be bought off like a prostitute. No offence but I think it is a little sick that your mother is making a connection between sex (or lack thereof) and money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): You're lucky your mom's actually trying to bribe you with THAT MUCH MONEY. Take it!!!!!!! and don't worry about sex too much, because you're still very young and technically until your bf is the legal age to have sex with you without your parent's consent, if you ever slipped up, not being able to contain yourself, and mentioned having sex with him by accident, he could easily be charged and jailed. I know you don't want to get him in that much trouble if you really like him and respect him enough.. So as horny as he or you get, just masterbate by yourself, for now, if you have to. Go out and try to find out what the legal age of having sex without a parent's consent is, and wait until that age, so you don't get your bf or yourself into a world of trouble. That's alot of money to have other types of fun with, when you're a teenager, so just try to use it in innocent ways, and enjoy your teenage years, because you only get them once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): OMG I must admit this raised it chuckle! That is some Mum you've got there! Maybe I should try it with my daughter. You are lucky to have a Mum who really cares about you. I would wait anyway as I think you are a bit too young (I have two daughters and one had sex at 17 & the other one is nearly 19 and still a virgin). If your BF respects you he will understand that you are too young. Your Mum is trying to give you an incentive. You don't need to rush into sex just now. Good luck x
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 At the end of the day it's your decision. Your mum is just trying to protect you but I dont think you should be bribed into doing what she wants for you. You have to make your own decisions and mistakes in life.On the other hand you are still effectively a minor and in her care by law. You should listen to her advice as she wants what's best for you. Also the age of concent law is there for a reason. At your age most people aren't emotionally mature enough to deal with having sex. It is also there to prevent teenege pregnancy. You might be old enough to do the deed but are you old enough to deal with the consiquences of having a baby at your age, or contracting a sexualy transmitted disease?Remember it's your body, and your choice who you give your virginity to, but at least make sure you use protection and be sensible about it when you do have sex.Good luck hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): Your asking other people whether you should choose sex or money might be a good indication that you are not ready for sex. One is only ready for a sexual relation when one knows what one wants - otherwise the other person involved can make you do things you don't really want and that may harm you a lot.On the other hand, it may also harm you to be bribed by money into letting go of your own wishes in love.My best advice is to take a session with yourself listening "all the way to the depth" of your own heart and body: What do YOU want? NOT your mother, and NOT your boyfriend... Just YOU. What does the innermost heart tell you?If you can't answer for sure, wait until you're older. Sex is for adults who have grown secure in their yesses and nos. Because sex affects a person more profoundly than almost anything else, both psychologically and physically, it should be handled with care. That doesn't always just mean "stay away from it", but it does mean that the central thing at issue is to "know oneself".That is why sex is, or should be, for adults. We are individuals who mature at different ages, some sooner, some later, but I think when the day comes when you're really ready, you will feel the difference quite clearly. It's like a kind of spring, where the whole world changes, and suddenly you just know that "now is the time".That's how it was for me at least. Have a happy life.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 There is a win-win solution . Tell your b/f about your mother's offer. If he wants to have sex with you , he will need to compensate you $950.00...LOL!
If he cannot come up with it , he may either pay by installments or no sex please.
Either way , you will win.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): This was a new one. Why not offer to stay virgin for a little longer for FREE? Why should your mom pay you to protect you from yourself. With sex comes babies, she probably figured this $950 is a lot cheaper than what your baby will cost her. And she is right. Trouble now is, do you really think having sex at your age is worth all of what can happen to you?
This reminds of of those parents who pay their kids when they get good grades in school to motivate them. You know what, if you get bad grades YOUR life will suck, not your parents life, so why parents at all pay their kids when they get good grades is beyond me, Second: its is YOUR life that will suck when you become pregnant because you are too young to handle the situation. Not your moms life. She is offering to pay you to hopefully open your eyes to see that staying a virgin for a few more years is really in YOUR interest, and not hers. I trust your mothers judgement on this one.
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