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*rigger18
writes:hey guys, ive written to you once before and u were all lovely and made me see sense.However im writing to ask for some advice on how to support my mum. she has recently told me that she is splitting up from her partner of eleven years. things have been rocky before, and the last time this happened she became very depressed to a point were she felt committing suicide was the only thing that wud help. now that im older and able to give her the support she needs id like to know how to id go about that? that last thing i want is to see my mum go down the same path again because i love her to bits. ive recently just moved out and now live about an hour down the road by car. how can i support her from that distance? im scared because i feel i need to be there but im not able to be there in person. would i be rite to give her space? plz help me because i can pass on any advice to my younger brother who will be there at home for her.thanks guys
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 She neds to know that someone is there for her, that she is not alone and that she is still needed. Talk to her, either you or your brother or someone else, get her to unload emotianally. This will have to happen more then once, keep talking to her untill she finds closure and wants to move on. Ask her for help with things( cooking, fixing things..........stuff she is good at and you need help with or at least pretend you do so she can feel better cause she can help)Take her out and try getting her involved in the community. Maby both of you can take a class together or join some kind of support group( a book club,etc)go out to see a movie with her that you know she would enjoy............stuff like that, you know her best!
The main thing is she needs a reason to keep going. People that are needed and have someone/something that depends on them being there do not gve up on life. She'll get through it, sounds like you are a good son and that's a great beginning:)
Good luck to both you and you mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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