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female
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36-40,
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writes:Dear cupid,av got an issue that hurts me deeply.well i got into a very huge fight with my mum recently,she always barks orders at me and insults me evry chance she gets,so i bursted and told her that i wouldnt talk to her ever if she didnt start treating me like an adult,(am 23,married with a son,bt i live with my mum coz my husband works abroad) that statement supposedly hurt her so much,so she decided to call my husband and tell him that i was being very rude to her without any reason.so my husband called me and yelled at me,also insulting me,not wanting to hear my side of the story.he wouldnt even let me sleep,he kept calling all night just to yell at me.my mum acted so happy and jovial,its like she was enjoying evry bit of my mysery.i feel like my mom hates me,like she wants me out of her life completely.she picks fights with me all day and when i finally burst out,she plays the victim.i feel like i hate her so much.i want to move out bt my husband wont allow it.was she trying to sabotage my marriage by telling my husband about our argument?i really dont get her.what hurts is that she plays the victim evrytime.and she really is having a ball seeing me stresd up from my husband's yelling.please help before i do samthin terrible. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): My mother used to act like a bitch like this until I told her that I was going to k*ll myself. But don't do that.
I don't know what the protocol is in your culture but perhaps talk to an aunt from your father's family to intervene between you and help you find peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Your husband wont allow you to move out? Who is he to tell you where you have to live? He's not even living there himself. Decisions should be taken together, not he choosing something over your head. Continue to stand up for yourself and if your husband insists on calling you without hearing your side of the story, stop picking up the phone, turn the phone off, or pic it up and lay it down under a pillow and then go back to sleep. He is probably keeping the baby awake as well. In the meantime look into what you can afford of other places to live.
Its just the way mothers are though. No matter how old you are they will always think of you as a child.
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