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writes:Hello, I'm in a bit of an emotiosal time right now, you see, my mother bought a condo, (mortgaged it, actually) and moved me in after I was on the streets for 5 years. I lived here with my first BF, and we didn't have a car or anything like that, so paying the rent, which is 1200 a month was simple.I've lived here for the past year with my fiancee and he's been looking for a job as he just finished his MA. Right now he's working at a temp agency and brining home 311$ a week.I get 717$ a month from SSI.We've had a hard time in the past paying rent, but we're looking for work and sending out resumes every day in the hopes of finding a well paying job,Today my mother told me she's switching jobs and is unable to help us when we can't meet the rent on this place. I got really angey because the rent on this place is actually only 1000$ She's since told me she's going to have me evicted. I never signed any lease or anything, so I'm not sure if she can really do that.We've had a rough time lately as he got a 3000$ settlement from an auto accident and then not more than a week later the car broke down, costing us the entire settlement for the repairs. My mother doesn't believe me, and thinks we spent most of it on frivelouas things,I don't know what I'm going to do, It's very hard to find a place that can let you keep animals, and I don't want to give mine up, as I am home 24/7 and they are all I have.What do I do? please, any help would be much appriciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what you mean, and I thank you for the advice. I'm looking at apartments now, and at this point my mother won't even speak to me, so I am unsure of what her next move will be.
Here's the thing tho, I'm on disability, which is fuel assistance in the winter, food stamps and a disability check every month.
My mother, being my landlord, has stated in writing, in these documents that I pay 450$ a month, which isn't true, but is what we had to tell them so that I could get the full benifits alloted to me each month.
I know that she has to take me to court, which can take atleast a month, and then the judge will decide how much longer I have beofre I have to move. which, where I live, is a minimum of a month.
Now, I never signed a lease or ANY documemnntation stating what I was to pay each month, but I have documents from these agencies stating that I have been paying my rent since the begining, when I moved in here 4 years ago.
these documents are written out and signed BY MY MOTHER, and the last one was as little as last month, who would a judge believe? my mother, with no proof of ANYTHING, or me, with documents she signed?
Again, thanks for your help.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (29 July 2006):
 Start by checking out your legal recourse, if any. In every city in Western nations, there'll be a phone number for low-cost (or free) legal advice. That's your starting point.
Ring up and ask whether you can be evicted, and how much notice she has to give you to do it. It might not be much, so be prepared. Ask what you can do. Write everything down.
Your mum can pretty much set whatever rent she sees fit, and if what you're paying for the condo is too much for your income, you need to look for a cheaper place. So do that!
It's just plain nutty to spend such a huge amount of time and worry staying in a place you can barely afford, simply because of your pets. What's more important? Your pets or having a roof over your head? If you don't do anything, dear, you'll soon have neither!
You may have friends that will pet-sit for a few months for you until you can settle someplace, but you need to get out of your mum's condo, before the clock ticks out and you find you have nowhere to live. (No comment on the motives of a mother who'd put rental income before the needs of her daughter.)
When you have a new place, you can sweetly ask the landlord if you can have a well-behaved dog or cat. Grab the local paper and start looking for houses with yards. It's hard to find a place that allows pets, but nowhere near impossible.
Last but not least, maybe you can look into doing some volunteer work -- even at the animal shelter -- so that you're not stuck at home all day, every day, and so dependant on your animals for company that you'd come close to losing sight of the big picture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2006): You're trying to restrict yourself by not sacrificing your pet, and your mom can evict you especially since u never signed a time-dependent contract. Best alternative as you already mentioned is to find a place that allows pets and move out.
There isn't much any aunt/uncle can help u with in terms of advice. You just need to see what's available out there and take them with caution.
If worst comes to worst, you can always try to get a govt loan, or find an agency that helps you look for rental homes that allows pets. Try searching online for something like that - depending on your region/country of course.
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