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writes:When I talk to my mom she rolls her eyes, and she looks angry. I could tell sometimes she doesn't want me to talk to her. Sometimes when I talk I stutter or cannot get the words out of my mouth. Maybe my mom doesn't like the way I talk.I can't help it though. I treat my mom nice. I don't know why she is acting like this. I didn't do anything wrong.When I think about what she has done to me, it makes me upset. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Hi, you could do without that from your mom really, she is probably making you more aware of your stutter and in turn that is making it more frequent.
I dont know how bad your stutter is but from the other angle it is extreemly difficult when conversing with someone with a really bad stutter or stammer not to try and finish the word or sentance for them, I used to have an employer that had a very severe stutter and it would take an age to get to what he was trying to say but I often found that the less worked up he was and the more patient the workers were with him, the less he would stutter. Eventually he had speech therapy because it was so difficult for him, perhaps this is something your mom might consider putting you through if it annoys her so much.
I think if I were you next time she rolls her eyes at you be sure to pick her up about it say 'dont roll your eyes, I cant help it' or something of the like.
I think you should slow down when you speak to give your brain time to process what you want to say and take your time, try not to get annoyed with yourself when you struggle with a word because that only makes it harder to say. If it really is a problem then I would ask about seeing a speech therapist. let me know how you get on. x
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 May 2008):
 I don't agree with the posters methods of the verbage they used in talking to your mom. There is a definate problem here, not with the way you talk, but with the way your mom acts. I would ask her, why it is you can't have a conversation with her, without her getting angry.
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (18 May 2008):
 My mom was the same way- I have a condition called a tremor, which makes my hands shake. Often, she would brign it up, telling me to 'relax', 'calm down', remind me of my shaking, knowing full well it's neiter attributed to my current level of stress or something I can control.
Just remind her, nicely, that you're working on it (I assume you are? If it's not something you can help, ignore the portion previous to this parenthetical commentary) and it would help you with the problem if she would be more sympathetic about it, to you. Tell her it bothers you that she cannot sympathise with your problem, she's your mother and should have infinite paitence and boundless love for you!!
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