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writes:Okay I've got this problem with my mom. We've always got along and never fought. Ever. I'm 15, so I bet it shocks you that I actually get along with her, right? Well lately things have been different. Ever since I got a boyfriend. I've had boyfriends before, but this is the most serious relationship I've ever had. It's even getting close to me losing my virginity with him. My mom is the only problem. She likes him, but doesn't trust him. She got pregnant when she was my age, you see. So now she is extremely paranoid. Every time my boyfriend comes over, she purposefully embarasses me, just to get him to break up with me so that I won't get pregnant. Even if i were to have sex with him, then it's MY choice and NOT hers. It's MY body. Whenever I go out with him, there ALWAYS has to be adult supervision, we're NEVER allowed to be alone, and she has to have the exact list of what we're gonna do that night. She sometimes even follows us to his house. He's 17, he has a car, he has a job, he loves me, I love him. Sounds like an ok relationship, right? What hurts me the most is knowing that my mom doesn't trust me. Help please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Wow that sucks.You are right, your body, your choice. But you do have to acknowledge that she is worried about history repeating itself. Try and sit down with her (calmly) and explain your side of the story. You have to explain to her that you aren't her. Acknowledge that yes, having sex does involve the risk that you may get pregnant but there are steps you can take to prevent that. Make an appointment with your doctor and ask her/him to prescribe you the pill. If you decide to have sex with this boy, insist he wear a condom every time. Discuss this with your mother, assuring her you fully intend to be safe if the special event happens. Her controlling of your dating itinerary is basically so she knows you didn't have time to have sex! lol. Tell her that you're growing up and she should grant you your trust. It is inevitable that you were going to get a bf that your are serious about. She's being unreasonable but it's only cos she loves you and wants the best for you.Good Luck!
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