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writes:I'm in a bit of a pickle! I'm 21 and my fiance is 35. My mum dosent like it because of the age difference. What can i do or say to help her change her mind? I love him and plan on spending the rest of my life with him. I've been with him since i was 13 but she dosent like that! help please x
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hi I don't understand what a 27 year old man wants with a 13 year old girl? Now you are 21, this is your decision but I can fully understand why your mum wasn't too happy. I was 23 when I met my now husband who is now 60 and my dad was ready to crucify him so at that young age I could understand why your mum was so against this. However now you are 21 i hope you are happy together. The past is the past and make sure he treats you right.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 I'd be more concerned about the fact that you may be getting too old for HIM. I mean a pervert that goes after thirteen years olds may lose interest in someone as mature as 21. If I had been in your mother's shoes 8 years ago this guy would have been thrown in jail. End of story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): I have to agree with anon. I too was all in your favour until i read the 13year old with a 27 year old. Vile!!! sorry to put it like this, but if you were my daughter i would of got rid of him and how!! You were much too young at 13 to attract the attention of a 27 year old, what on earth was going on? It sounds horrible to me, sorry. I can understand how your parents must feel. My parents would of killed him. You have been hanging around with a bloke who is nearly old enough to be your dad. Have you had any youth? I doubt it with him around. Sorry but i'm not happy with this one but at the end of the day it is up to you now your are 21. If i was you i would be going out with lovely young lads of your own age and keep hold of your youth.
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reader, tigerlady  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 well, okay...13 yrs old and a 27yrs old yes I can understand where your mum was coming from, I have been there with my that and yet it was my dad that was shocked. But now you are 21 yrs old. My dear...you have learnt a lot over the years, if you still love each other continue, and i think your mother she needs to open her eyes and realize that her daughter needs someone to love her and protect her cause your mother isn't going to be around forever you know..whatever you do...good luck, if you both are happy together then I have no problems...follow your heart okay, it all comes down to you and no one else, only you can make that decision.
Tigerlady
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Whoa, whoa, whoa. I was all supportive until I read the last couple of lines.
A 35 year old dating a 21 year old? Not awful or creepy.
A 27 year old dating a 13 year old? Awful and creepy as hell.
If you're honestly telling the truth, then you need to open your eyes and ask yourself what a 27 year old man could possibly see in a 13 year old girl. I don't care how mature you were for your age, there is something very unbalanced about a man of his age dating a girl that was 13.
I have a feeling your mom would be more supportive if you hadn't been dating while you were going through puberty. That just screams of exploitation and terrible, awful judgement on his part.
If you disagree, fine. But honestly, think about it. A 27 year old man knowingly becomes involved with a girl who's just become a teenager. Not only is his interest disturbing, but the fact that he actually pursued the relationship is mind boggling. It says a lot about his character to me. Do you really want a future with a man like that?
I find this very worrisome.
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