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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I had a crush on this boy when I was 16 and he was 17. We kissed a few times and then he graduated and moved away. I graduated the next year and moved away to go to college. In college I met a great man and we dated for 3 1/2 years. We moved back to my hometown and I ran into my highschool crush. We hung out as friends, flirted and talked about the "good old days". He knew I had a boyfriend and became friends with him as well. My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago and I called my highschool crush to talk. I went to house and we shared an amazing kiss. He told me that he knew his girlfriend (they havn't been together for very long) wasn't the one. I left before it went further. We hadn't talked for awhile (my ex found out we kissed and told him off) I ran into him last night. I didn't talk with him too much because he was out with his girlfriend and I was uncomfortable because my ex chewed him out. We said hello and aked how each other was doing and that was all, but we did share some looks (more like stares) with each other. Am I a horrible person for caring so much for someone so soon after my break up? He is ever going to leave his girlfriend for me? Am I crazy? Help me.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 First off well done for leaving when he said his girlfriend wasn't the one. That was a blatant manipulation to try and make sure you slept with him. You're very strong for not letting that happen! Second of all you're not a horrible person for wanting him to leave his girlfriend but if you get involved and try and make him leave her that changes things somewhat! What I suggest is to give him some space for a while. If he asks what's going on say you're not willing to be his other woman and that you have feelings for him but nothing will happen while he's with his girlfriend. Then it's up to him to make the decision and you'll know either way. As for the meantime, put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes during all your encounters with him. Don't do anything you wouldn't be happy about your own boyfriend doing with someone else okay? Let your conscience be your guide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Think of it this way, if this was another girl asking "Would he ever leave his gf for me?" How would u answer that question?
In short, the signs are there that he is interested, especially that he cheated on her by kissing you. However, what is the likely hood that he won't do the same to you, if he yet again, met another 'amazing' woman?
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