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writes:This is a very small thing but to me it's annoying. I have two older sisters one 23 and one 21 they both live at home with me and my other sister who is 15. We just got a new cooker after two years of useing a microwave and grill. I was really excited for the first couple of days we had loads of nice oven cooked stuff. But now it's all changed and when they come home from work they don't cook and we have to have microwave chicken curry or beans on toast. I know they work but come on not even once a week. And your thinking what about my mum (she died when i was 6 im 12 now. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): hey sorry about ur mom my mom died when i was 6 to well if they bought this oven they need to cook u food in it so that u can have a nice cooked meal!! ~emily
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reader, niki0 +, writes (31 October 2007):
they should be taking more care of you you only a young girl fair enough they work but you should still have somebody looking after you try sitting them down and telling them about your problem if that does not work get back to me x
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reader, rcn  +, writes (30 October 2007):
 Ok, this makes more sense. I was under the impression your sisters were now raising the children.
Do your sister pay money for rent, etc.? I know when I was old enough to work, I paid a certain amount of my money from working toward rent in my parents home. There needs to be some schedule. Everyone lives under the same roof. Everyone has to pitch in with chores and cooking. I almost sounds like a household out of order. People just do whatever, if it seems convenient for them at the moment. Just like your dad has a schedule at work of what's expected of him, everyone needs to sit down and develop a schedule for the home so there is no question about whats expected of everyone. That way you can pull the insanity together into an orderly fashion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSome of your answers was helpful but most werent. I do make myself dinner sometimes like when they dont cook i make beans on toast or microwave chicken currys or something. But they never make nothing and my dad isnt a good cook and has to work from 4am to roughly 3pm then come back home for an hour or two and go back to work to earn all of us money as my sisters don't help out so please dont diss him.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. This must be a difficult transition for you. I know your all having to go through this. Could the issue be that your sisters have been placed in this parenting role and psychologically they're still being affected by it? I know I would be. Your family together needs to work together. My daughter is 13 another one is 11, they love to cook. My 11 year old makes the best tasting steak. My 13 year old makes the best taco salad. Something simple, but its the best because she made it. :)If you need help. I'd call the government there. I'm sure they have some programs for assistance. Maybe even a family friend that can take you and your sister for an evening and allow your other sisters an evening out. As a single parent myself, I'm grateful for evenings my kids stay at a friends house.Be grateful your sisters have stepped up like they have. That takes love and strength on their part. Let them know how much you appreciate them. Work together and figure out what everyone can do so there is not as much stress sitting on your older sisters shoulders. Take care. I wish all of you the best.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. This must be a difficult transition for you. I know your all having to go through this. Could the issue be that your sisters have been placed in this parenting role and psychologically they're still being affected by it? I know I would be.
Your family together needs to work together. My daughter is 13 another one is 11, they love to cook. My 11 year old makes the best tasting steak. My 13 year old makes the best taco salad. Something simple, but its the best because she made it. :)
If you need help. I'd call the government there. I'm sure they have some programs for assistance. Maybe even a family friend that can take you and your sister for an evening and allow your other sisters an evening out. As a single parent myself, I'm grateful for evenings my kids stay at a friends house.
Be grateful your sisters have stepped up like they have. That takes love and strength on their part. Let them know how much you appreciate them. Work together and figure out what everyone can do so there is not as much stress sitting on your older sisters shoulders.
Take care. I wish all of you the best.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. This must be a difficult transition for you. I know your all having to go through this. Could the issue be that your sisters have been placed in this parenting role and psychologically they're still being affected by it? I know I would be. Your family together needs to work together. My daughter is 13 another one is 11, they love to cook. My 11 year old makes the best tasting steak. My 13 year old makes the best taco salad. Something simple, but its the best because she made it. :)If you need help. I'd call the government there. I'm sure they have some programs for assistance. Maybe even a family friend that can take you and your sister for an evening and allow your other sisters an evening out. As a single parent myself, I'm grateful for evenings my kids stay at a friends house.Be grateful your sisters have stepped up like they have. That takes love and strength on their part. Let them know how much you appreciate them. Work together and figure out what everyone can do so there is not as much stress sitting on your older sisters shoulders. Take care. I wish all of you the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Maybe you can suggest all sitting down once at weekend., and having a cooked dinner. So you can all remember how much you loved, and miss your mum.I'm sure your sisters miss her too.Watch, learn and help you will soon be able to cook yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): ok you're 12. It's not like you're a little baby who needs to be fed by an adult. Make yourself something to eat. I am sorry about your mom's death. But your older sisters work and when they get home, I am sure they don't feel like cooking. You aren't thier child. Get a cook book and go through it and pick some recipes out that seem easy enough and start there. Maybe your sisters would like it if you were to have a nice oven cooked dinner ready for them when they got home from thier long day at work? Why are you expecting your sisters to cook for you anyways? It seems unfair to me that you expect that of them because your mother has passed on. Where is your father??
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Learn to cook you and your 15 year old sister. You can get cooking ideas online. Make sure you don't leave anything on! But tell your sisters first....don't just start cooking......they should cook for you thought. Try making Mac and chesse chicken is easy try some things if they don't cook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): First of all, I am really sorry to hear about your mum. Secondly, i would recommend trying to make a deal with your sisters. Give them something in return for making the meal e.g you wash the car if they cook a meal for example. Alternatively, you could learn to cook on an oven yourself. There are many great easy recipes around that are great too have but also some easy ready meals - put in an oven and twenty minutes later you have a delicious meal. voila! Either way you should have some success by trying one method or the other.
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