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writes:I go to this restaurant all the time and I always see this young waiter that works there, who is about the same age as I--17 going on 18. Well, my mom keeps saying that he is always looking at me, and seems glad when he sees me there. My mom says that he walks by where we are sat just to look at me. She also says that he stares at me a lot but then looks away because he's shy.I didn't notice any of this until my mother kept telling me. I think he's cute, definitely a good catch...and I think I'm starting to like him--but I'm afraid that he doesn't like me. He hasn't even tried to talk to me yet.I'm a very shy person and I wouldn't dare to talk to him. I think he's shy too... but gosh, can't he just come up to me and say hi?My mom constantly makes remarks saying that he's my boyfriend and that he does like me--she even says it in the restaurant, which is SUPER embarrassing.I just hope he feels the same as I do. I'm not sure what to do...I don't know if I should confront my fear and talk to him? Or maybe I should just forget about him and move on?Can you guys give me any advice on what to do? Or maybe how to talk to him...because I'm totally lost with how to talk to a guy. Thank you for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): ha it sounds all too cute to believe. im sure you posted this before though... but it's written all over the wall, maybe you should go back when your mom isn't there so she isn't there to tease you. or mabie you would feel a bit better on your own with it. just bite your lip, look up at him in his eyes. wait until he sees you looking at him at least for 2 seconds, and then look away. use the sort of puppy dog look. tilt your face down and look at him that way. just use general coversation when you talk to him, ask him how long he has been working there. if he likes the job etc...
and please let us know how you get on!
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reader, scarlet_tears  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 I completely agree with bubbloo24, intoducing yourself is definitely a good start! After this, things like catching his eye as he walks past, biting your lower lip and twirling your hair are all good ways to let him know you are interested.
A technique called "sticky eyes" is useful, where you catch his eye and don't let go of the eye contact for as ong as you can, as if your eyes are stuck to his. Then look away, look back up and smile at him :)
Always smile. It shows you are friendly and approachable.
Hope this helps!
Keep us posted, eh?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 Maybe you should go up to him while he's walking somewhere near your table and just say " hey, can we have some more drinks over here? sorry, what's your name?" and then when he says his name just say "Oh hey nice to meet you _____, I'm ____" maybe put your hand out to shake his hand? it's a starting point and then he'll feel more comfortable talking to you and if he does like you he'll probably come and talk to you from there. If he doesn't, well, there's nothing wrong with being polite when meeting someone new is there?
Give it a go!! Life's too short to worry about whether they like you or not, just give it a whirl! it's worth a shot!
Good luck hun!! xx
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