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writes:Help!!!!!!! I think that my mom read my diary. I'm 13 years old and I wrote about an 8th grade girl who just graduated. I think she was in love with me and so by that I felt in love with her too. The only problem is is that I'm also a girl. I sort of do have a crush on her but that doesn't make me a lesbian or anything. Now whenever my mom talks to me about boys she says "If you do this, boys will never kiss you- or girls" with a smile on her face. Now I know that she knows I like her- and the most devastating part is that she thinks I'm a lesbian. Please help me!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): hey just sit her dwn nd say mum do u fink im lezi if she says yes tell her ur not and say sumin like u fancy this realli hot boy at skool but if she says no then just say good cuz i thought u did and mention the fing bout a hot boy at skool and im sure u will be just fine hope it all goes orite good luck xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Let this be a lesson to you.
Either never write these things down or if you do, put that diary under better protection (like a safety deposit box in the bank. Or at least somewhere that cannot be found by the cops if they chose to search the place because if cops can;t find it, your mum certainly won't).
You'll just have to wear your mum's strange ways. My mum thinks I may be gay because I've not had a gf before (I'm not gay btw, I just haven't met a girl that is interested in me in that way at all, ever) and I'm 24. That and I love the theatre (not all of us in the theatre industry are gay).
If I protest and get annoyed at the comments she gives me this stupid little smirk like the fact I'm annoyed is a sign of assent.
So I've learned to simply never talk, mention or even hint at anything revolving emotions or relationships to her. Mine or anyone elses. And everytime she talks about these things, I vacate the room and refuse to enter the conversation.
She has stopped bothering me with these things now.
Flynn 24
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 your mum should know that alot of growing girls your age go through phases of slight bisexuality - completely normal. hun im sure she is probably just trying to make you feel comfortable with wat she thinks is your sexuality. but if it is making you feel comfortable, talk to her and tell her the situation. explain to her that you got mixed up feelings about this girl, but that you are not a lesbian, and her implying that you are is irritating and makes you feel uncomfortable. however - at least you know that if you ever do become a lesbian - your mum will accept it!! but like i said hun, just talk to her and tell her how it is. she's your mum, she'll understand, good luck, if you want to, just email me xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): Quite simply put, ask her. Next time she brings it up in that way look at her and say 'hey...what's up with you and girls lately?' If she mentions your diary, promptly tell her you feel pretty betrayed that she'd read it. After that, tell her that you feel really awful that she thinks you're gay. Explain what happened, but be sure to include that you're NOT a lesbian, not even bi, if that's the case. This is probably a situation that you don't want to leave loose ends hanging in.
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reader, hello1  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Lol, well at least your mum supports you! So if you do turn out to be bisexual or a lesbian, you wouldn't have too worry about her. Now you seem confused and rightly so, your very young and your emotions are everywhere at that age. Sit your mum down and tell her your not a lesbian, say you had a crush on this one girl but you also like guys too. Just say your 13 and don't know what you are yet
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): Hi Hunny
If she has read it its done now so just say hey! mum have you been reading my diary as I did at your age and tell it how it is hunny nothing to be ashamed off we all grow up and have different feelings as we grow, So dont let this get you down knock it on the head with your mum hunny and laugh about it, My mum thought the 5 stars in my diary were the boys id been with and how I rated them it was the pop groups I liked and the names of the guys in them TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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