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writes:my dad passed away last yr in dec. i m living with my mom and younger brother. from some days iam seeing changes in my mom's behavior.i checked her phone nd thr i saw pic collages of my mom and my uncle who is my mom's frnd's husband. im totally shocked nt talking anything from sm days.to clear my doubts i checked her room there i saw pregnancy test kits, abortion pills and a cover of new sim card whose nmbr is also not knwn to us. i m shocked how can she do this?i need ur advice whether i should talk to her about this matter or not..actually she thinks i dont knw anything.i m totally confused wht to do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2015): Your mother owes you no explanations and none of this is any of your business. If your parents were snooping around on you, you'd be the first to throw a tizzy-fit.
Your mother's privacy is very important, and she is an adult living in her own home. She does not need her children going through her room as if you have to monitor her personal-life; as though she is the child in this situation. She may be handling something very complicated and deeply personal right now.
I recommend you pretend you don't know a thing, respect her privacy, respect her as your mother; and mind your own affairs. This has absolutely nothing to do with you.
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (12 December 2015):
 A little bit of advice that you may not want to hear..STAY OUT OF IT. She's a grown woman, I'm guessing she's in her 40's..and she needs/wants companionship. She's still young and has to go on living. Its wrong for you to be going through her things, its an invasion of privacy. She has a right to live her life and if she wants to talk to you about things, she will.
I don't mean to sound harsh, I know how much it hurts to lose a parent. I lost my dad just over 2 years ago. My parents had been married for almost 54 years. My mom started dating 2 months after my dad died, and moved in with the guy 4 months later. I was shocked..but guess what? My mom has a right to live her life, whether I liked it or not.
Respect her and trust her to live her life.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 December 2015):
 Your mother probably misses your dad and she may want companionship. Nothing wrong with that.
I really think you should stop snooping through your mother's things and give her the privacy she's entitled to as a grown woman.
If she is dating, then it might be too soon for her to discuss it with you. If and when she meets someone she's serious about, THEN she'll talk to you and your brother.
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