A
female
age
36-40,
*exLina
writes:I dont know English much. I am trying to write my problems. Please anyone tell some suggestions for me. My husband, sister-in-law and my mother-in-law have european nationality and passport. My husband and my sister-in-law have UK PR aswell. From I got married, I am suffering a lot. Because of my sister-in-law and my mother-in-law. My mother-n-law always watching me. I didnt have any privacy. The two ladies dont allow to speak with my husbad and etc., Now my sister-n-law got married. so my mother-n-law staying with us. My mother-n-law is widow. when she remember hers husband immediately she hugs my husband in front of me. My husband doesn't ask anything. I cant able to go out from this life. But I dont like to live with this bad lady. My husband is a good person. He loves and cares me in a good way when this two ladies are not staying with me. But when they join with us problems will start. So I want to know about can I have any chance to get out my mother-n-law from this country. Then only I will happy. In india she has a mother, sisters and brothers. But she doesn't like to go to india. she likes stay, persecute and dominate me. she has a european natinality and passport. I didn't have proper sleeping even one day. So please can anybody give any suggestions please. Hope you understand my english. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Thank you for doing your best despite English being a second language! You actually write better than a lot of the people who speak English as their only language.
You need to talk to your husband about this. This will not change unless he makes an effort with his mother to change it. It's possible that he doesn't realize just how much she's hurting you and your relationship with your husband. You need to tell him what you told us. How he reacts will determine what you need to do. If he wants to help your marriage, then he will take the appropriate actions and confront his mother about what she's doing. If he doesn't do this, then his loyalties lie deeper with her and it may be best for you to leave and file for divorce.
You should never feel like a prisoner in your own home. She is family, but a guest in your house. She has to learn to respect that and you or she doesn't belong. You cannot force a power struggle though, and you can't make your husband choose you or her. You can only tell your husband what's happening and see what he does. His choice will show you his true character.
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