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writes: I have a mother in law who is very nosey! She is the only person who we trust to babysit our kids and noone else. Everytime we leave the kids to her in our home, I notice personal things that are missed placed. I leave these things out of reach from our children, so i know thats its impossible for them to get a hold of our things. I noticed my vibrator in i different spot in my hiding spot, deep under my matress and ever since my mother in law looks at me with a little smirk on her face. i know that i dont misplace my things! she snoops threw everything, like my underwear drawer, my closet. she claims to be very religous and to her everything is the devil, including my heavy metal cd's and everytime she visits i notice them one by one disappearing. my pictures from my photo album are missplaced. i want to tell her something, but dont know how. i mean i wont be nice about it. even my little girl tells me what her grandma does. she always tells me that grandma was looking for something in our room, when i know that shes actually snooping around. i know later because she asks us these strange questions every time she finds something new to her from snooping around in our house that isnt appearant in our home and is always out of view. for example after she snoops she'll give me suggestions about things before she leaves. you know like personal things. she's very nosey. she's always butting in everything we do and asks questions all around! she lives out of town and only comes around like every two weeks. i want this to stop. i know she knows that i know that she's snoops through my things, and i've made it clear that i dont appreciate anyone like that. i even tell her that i dont want anyone in our room while im gone! but she does it anyway and thinks that she's sneaky about it. could anyone please give me some good advice on how to make this stop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2006): Haha nice! I was about to say something similar to DrPsych... [applauds] Yeah it's 'rude' of your mommy to snoop around your room and stuffs, but it might be an even bigger 'joke' to maybe even casually mention it. It's all about wit. 8]
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 May 2006):
 She is snooping because she gets some kind of thrill out of looking at your personal stuff thinking you don't know...so, get some sticky labels and next time you have her over for babysitting make sure you leave a few notes in the draws with some very sarcastic comments on them...I would personally add 'the spare batteries are in the top drawer Mrs (whatever her name is) should you run it out' to your vibrator. She is smirking as she thinks she has the upper hand on you...time to turn into around in your favour?
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reader, willywombat +, writes (13 May 2006):
 There are several ways to combat this problem. Some of them are confrontational, some you can just do but not mention (because quite frankly LET HER discover them!)
Put a lock on you bedroom door. Get yourself a padlock and put it out of reach of your children at the top of the door. Dont tell her. If she questions it - just breeze her off by saying 'it's because of the kids' then do not enter into a converstaion with her about it. Ignore any further questions with a 'd'ya wnat a cuppa' or somethign, that way she will ahve to ask twice and you will see if she truely has a snoopy motive.
Come back early when you are out and about. Ctach her in the act. This will cause a row, but it is worth it to see her face.
Mention that your kiddie said she was looking for something in your room and put her on the spot in front of others and ask her what it was she was looking for? Then tell her, you would rather she didn't as you would like your privacy - this may be difficult as it is an in your face method, but worth it in the long run.
Tell her that she can have your kid at her house if she refuses to stop snooping. You don't feel you can have anything personal in your house and you dont want your space invaded.
If I was you I would go with the padlock on the door thing. That way you are being non-confrontational but making a point. Then you ahve every right ot get mad with her if it continues. Good luck.
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