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anonymous
writes:Hey, I'm here about an issue concerning my Mum and boyfriend. I come from a Christian upbringing although i'm not quite decided where i am on it yet. Anywhoo, i've been with this guy for 4 months and it's been going amazingly well overall and i think it would possibly go somewhere - maybe even marriage who knows! BUT being that he's 24 and i'm 18 and that he's not a christian - not in a 'big time' job yet (by choice he's got lots of offers but doesn't want to settle down yet)she seems quite off and anti-him. Like she's polite enough when he's arround but whenever we have a tiff she immediately says 'are you going to break up' or 'sounds like you need a new bf' etc and it just all sounds really negative i've jokily mentioned it before but she was like 'oh don't be silly' but she seems very pesimistic about a guy who i really really love. I think she'd get the shock of her life if she knew i'd lost my virginity to him! How can i win her around and get her support a bit more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Hi :)
Your BF just needs to be consistent with who he is as a person. Your mother needs his trust with her so she can let him have you. She's protecting you and once she can see how great he is, hopefully those barriers will fall.
I once had a Christian GF whose mom hated my background in Islam, even tho I wasnt muslim. She judged me. Instead getting angry, I just was consistent and eventually the witch came around lol. Totally not worth my time given the end result of the relationship and also becaus eit was exhausting. Good luck on this.
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