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writes:I am so confused. I have been with my partner 4 yaers now and have a 3 year old son. My mother hates my husbands guts and vice versa. It all started 1 yaer ago at my sons 2nd birthday my mum was sick of seeing me crying because of my husband ignoring me, not working and just locking himself in the comp room, he hardly even showed an appearance for my sons second birthday. My mum had a bit to drink and got angry with my husband and slapped him in the face. Things got alot worse between my husband and me and I ended up leaving him last August and moved into my own place with my son, during this time my mum was very supportive. My Husband got very angry at me moving out and making decisions without him and he didnt want my mum looking after our son so called DOCS on my mum saving she was violent to her other child. My mum does hit her other child when he is naught nothign I would ever worrie about but my husband didnt want her hitting our son which I understood, he went about it wrong way calling DOCS but I understood why. I am back with my husband living in the house with him and my mum refuses to talk to him because of everything he has done to her or have anything to do with him, so I told her if she is not willing to accept him then i wouldnt be in her life either.This is very heartbreaking for me to do, but I did it for my husband.What upsets me the most is my Husband on a weekly basics or more runs my mum down to the ground and tells me how she doesnt care about me and hates me. I cant take it anymore!!! I have basically cut my mum off for him I dont need him to constantly make me feel shit. I feel so stuck as I have already uprooted my son's life when i left my husband the first time, I cant do it again???Need help and advise what to do to make things better????
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we did Marry for love and had a beautiful son who was planned and we both love very much. My Husband suffers from Anxiety and all our troubles started when my son was born, with all the new responsibilities of becoming a father and husband I think got too much for him. We both come from very different backgrounds he is Turkish and grew up a different lifestyle to me, I am Australian and was raised by a single mother with not much money, so I have been taught to be very strong, independent and how to survive in this world and my husband has been very sheltered. My independence is a big problem in our relationship as my husband feels I dont need him and make all the decisions by myself, which I have done all my life, but am trying to change and consult my husband before making decisions. very hard when we were taught very different and our common sense and morals are different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): You need an experienced relationship counselor to help you tackle the issues between you, your husband and your mom. Perhaps your doctor or pastor can recommend someone they know.
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