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writes:Help. I'm depressed and can't talk to my mum about it because she's the cause. She tore apart our family and moved me states away from my brother who's now living with my dad. Me and my mum have moved to 2 different states before a year's time. I hate my life. All my friends are back where my brother and dad are. My brother's acting out because he hates what my mum did to us by tearing us apart. I'm starting to secretely hate my mum over this and my brother hates his life to. I will never tell my mum this because she doesn't care about how me and my brother feel anyway. I miss my brother, dad and friends. My mum's a selfish woman. Should I just pack up and go back to where my real home is and forget about being here? I feel bad for hating her. I want to go to college where my home is but my mum's so selfish she wants me to stay with her for financial reasons. She messes up everything for everyone all the time. What should I do?
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reader, Battista  +, writes (20 August 2011):
Sounds to me like you should head home to your dad and your brother.
Both you and your mum are grown adults; this means you need to make the best decision for YOU, and also that your mum is old enough to deal with the consequences. In this case, if you want to go back then do it. I'm sure your brother will appreciate having yo back at the very least.
Your mum will be unhappy I'm sure, but you need to put your foot down and stand up for what you want to do. It sounds like all factors point to you heading to your dad's as the best plan of action, especially if that is the best place to continue your education.
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 August 2011):
 Oh and PS, If your Depression does not lift within a first two weeks after you arrive home and are with your Dad, then please see your Doctor. Depression is a serious illness and should never be taken lightly. Some good counselling and a discussion with your Doctor and they can help you get your life back on track.Good Luck
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 August 2011):
Hi You are not a child. At 20 you are an adult and can do as you please. The relationship with your Mom is making your sad. It is not working. Your brother probably needs your stablising presence. So pack up, book the flight, phone your Dad and arrange to return home to your family and your friends. Your health must come first and it sounds like you will be much happier surrounded by your friends and those you love. Your Mom will possibly try to manipulate you to stop you going. So quietly pack up and get going after you have spoken to your Dad. Leave Mom a note that you will discuss the reasons later. Because it sounds like you were railroaded with a complete lack of consultation to go with your Mom in the first place. Now it is your turn to do what is right for you.
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