My marriage is falling apart and I am confused

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have been married for almost 8 years and I am falling out of love with my husband so I told my husband almost 2 wks ago that I wanted out and so I have this guy friend that I was talking to and we ended up sleeping together but now he is like 7 hours away from me and I still live at home with my husband bc neither one of us can afford to move out and we also have a 2year old son. He still wants to work on our marriage and he knows about the other guy but I am confused and one part of me wants to see other people and the other part of me dont want to leave my husband. I do feel bad for sleeping with the other guy but he treated me the way I wanted to be treated and he noticed things with me. My husband doesnt ever say how good I look or anything and we may have sex maybe 3 times a month. I dont feel like my heart is with him but I also dont want to hurt him bc he says that we can work things out but this has been going on for a really long time with how I feel. This is the only time I have ever cheated on him. In need of advice...

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