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writes:Hi i have been seeing this guy for 17 months to be precise and we used to have sex everyday recently is has reduced to only weekends , when i asked him about it he says i dont dress up for him when he comes home and also made a comment saying not only do i dress well but i look like something out of garbage which is so not true i usually am freshly showered and in my pyjamas wats the deal with him i am so confused . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe eventually didnt call his parents yet on top of that behaved really immature over the weekend and brought his shoe clad feet so close to my face , and apologized the next day , i wont easily forgive him for that
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reader, krit +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Best of luck with that. I hope he comes true to your expectations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt is definitely not the sex i am sure , yup deadline is what i am gonna stress on , and he was in a nine year old relationship and the girl backed off but he is extremely happy with me cause i was a little out of his league , he is not a loser in my eyes but he is definitely lazy and takes his life easily , thank you for your replies again really appreciate it . We are going on a weekend trip and he is gonna speak to his parents at ten tomorrow morning else i am moving on
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reader, krit +, writes (21 July 2011):
now this is more messy than his comments.
im afraid if hes just using you for sex. IS he married before or not. As most average guys in India with even average pay would do get married at his age. There must be a reason behind that. And if that reason is that he hasn't met anyone then that would be a clean lie.
34 yrs and not met anyone, only few possibilities come out of this---
1)he is complete loser
2)he a lazy person who doesn't wants to put much effort into his relationships to work.
3)he'S very much career oriented and doesn't wants to settle ever.
all of above are not good signs for this relationship to continue.
Nothing wrong with being intimate but beyond that it is still a big question mark if he doesn't gives you clear answer.
STOP having sex for a while and then see how it goes from there. IF you keep giving it to him for no effort from his side then why would he care to change it. He's having his cake without even paying for it.
he'll keep pushing the date to meet his parents forward till you dont give him a deadline.
IF hes 34 then your also 27.keep that in mind and ACT a little more wise now. ITS about your life too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you so much for your answers and opinion truly touched , today when i asked him about the garbage remark be denies it completely , also put our picture on his facebook profile before i called him out on his this remark . I am confused because he does one nice thing and then spoils it rotten , he put our profile picture up but he refuses to talk to his parents about me , also i had asked about marriage i am 27 and he is 34 , we used to have a lot of fights some my faults some his and now i asked him to think of me long term and gave him a month and he said yes lets get married and he will speak to his parents the next day , that next day was two weeks ago and everyday he postpones it , like he was supposed to tell them on wed max and he is still at work at nine and he says he will do it on friday , if he has a problem why doesnt he just say so so that i move on , he says i dont want to lose you and marry you and nor does he tell his parents a hint or even my name , i had given myself a week one week ago now he is still stalling but doesnt wanna lose me too wats up with that
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reader, krit +, writes (21 July 2011):
IS he your husband that you have to dressup for him each day before he comes home????
IF NOT then forget about it, whatever he said was GARBAGE.
Everyone has A bad hair day when we dont even want to fix it. IF you are seeing a person daily then he got to know to deal with it once in a while.
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reader, Zandra  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 To be honest, what are you confused about? He is disrespecting you, and expressing his lack of desire toward you. Don't let him do this to you, as if it continues it will destroy your confidence. I don't believe in dressing a certain way for a mans benefit, if you want to wear pyjamas you should feel free to do so without having to put up with nasty comments. However, do you ever make a special effort to look your best, men like to be proud of their woman's appearance, so do something nice with your hair wear something fitted if your looking to please him, but really I think he should of expressed himself in a more respectful manner!
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