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writes:I'm almost 47yrs and have been seeing my partner for just over 2 years. We don't live together and live around an hour apart. Over the time he has had moody times when he's just left my house for no apparent reason, or slept on the sofa.Last february we had booked a holiday abroad but a week before we went he had a "moody time" and said he didn't think it was a good idea to go and so i had to cancel the hotel (we did go in the end because he changed his mind). I dont know why it was not a good idea.This weekend he said he would call me lst night, but then sent a text saying he was going to bed and would speak to me today. I rang him and he never answered.Today, he sent a text saying we need to talk about us.I know I am not the most affectionate person in the world but I am kind and caring. I have a job that I really struggle with at the moment and am having to complete a teacher training course. I am also waiting to have an impacted wisdom tooth out, due to facial pain of over 8 years...I just want some stability in my life, My last relationship broke up leaving me hard up financially and ill.I hate the uncertainty of this relationship now, when he has these moods and the not knowing what I have done wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi. I am the poster. He has now said we should go our separate ways.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I wonder if he suffers from depression? My husband does, and very much has "moody" days, and makes somewhat irrational decisions (like suddenly deciding that a holiday is a bad idea) for whatever reason. I would encourage him to see a doctor and get evaluated. If it is depression, it could mean a world of difference if he gets the proper medication. Explain to him that it is not him - it's a chemical imbalance.
Be there for his support, but be sure you take care of yourself too. Having an emotionally unstable partner wears a lot on you too. Good luck!
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reader, tdntuck +, writes (15 November 2010):
 He could be bi-polar or have a serotonin imbalance. You could suggest he see a doctor for diagnosis and receive therapy and medication.
He could have family or monetary issues he's trying to deal with that you're not aware of. Pry a little in this area, if this is the case, sharing with you would lift the weight off his shoulders which may be causing the mood swings due to the burden of having to deal with it alone. Make it clear to him you're available/there for support.
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