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writes: my man drinks to much. well he doesnt drink everyday, but anytime he gets the chance he gets smashed. he said that he would try to cut down, but really he just hasnt tried. this is why i dont like to go to parties or go to the bar. he becomes a different person who forgets that im in the building, and boy does he ever start acting like a fool. all my friends and his friends like it when hes smashed, but i grew up in a large family where numerious deaths and family violence occured. i have tried to tell him how alcohol has affected my life, and he doesnt seem to understand. what do i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): Hi,
There is really no excuse for getting smashed when you drink! This just means this person (your B/f) can not does know how to drink! I can tell you that personally! I have had issues with drinking and I made up the dumbest excuses for the way I acted, or worse yet, I didn't even remember. This has cause me "Alot" I often hurt myself and didn't even know till the next day, I lost someone that really loved me because I just would have rathered drink then listen to them and in the long run all it got me was being alone and being addicted. Someone hit the nail right on the head when they said YOU really can't do anything about it, a person has to be willing to WANT to sober up. However you can be support and know that you love him unconditionally.. This I wish they would have done with me.. but sometimes, some people just can't deal with others problems. Talk too him and tell him how you feel. Then see if you can get some professional information, try the AA site. Maybe you can help him see where his life could be headed. Other then that, that's pretty much all you can do. I will tell you this.. fighting Alcoholism is not easy.. I do that everyday.. one step at a time...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 That's GOOD luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 October 2006):
Your boyfriend has all the indicators of alcoholism. There is nothing you can do for him unless he seeks help himself. He needs to go to AA if he doesn't agree to go then you'd better get ready for things to get lots worse before they get any better. It's all up to him but If I were you I'd bail out if he doesn't stop the drinking. Goor luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): I have similar problems with my boyfriend. He drinks to forget. Does your man have any issues that need sorting out? That could help. Otherwise you should just avoid him when he's drunk.
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reader, Beckah  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 I can understand entirely how you're feeling, my boyfriend is the same. He claims that he drinks (and this is at home) because he wants to relax and escape. I get the feeling that your boyfriend is running away from something. Do you and him talk? Not to sound rude, but you may need more communication in your relationship. I too have a history of family violence, and i dislike my boyfriend doing this. It's confusing because i find myself blaming me because of this, and i shouldn't. I'm trying to figure out a way of getting out of this problem myself but i'm aware it's not getting any easier. If you find it any easier to talk to me one on one, then feel free to msg me anytime, i will reply.
Hope i've helped, and as soon as i find a relief to this problem...i'll let you know. haha
xxx
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