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writes:Hi Cupids, this is a bit of a long one so apologies!! :)My boyfriend of four months broke up with me a few weeks ago saying that we didn't see enough of each other, that we didn't talk enough and basically that he felt like he didn't know me at all. He had been ignoring me for about a week beforehand, just being really short on IM, not replying to texts etc. At first I didn't actually think he was being serious, like I thought that it would be easy enough to fix things if we wanted to but he seemed to have his mind made up. There was no contact for another week, until I saw him and his friends out at a nightclub.A guy that he is very very good friends with started repeatedly hitting on me. At first I kind of laughed it off but I soon realised that he wasn't joking! I tried to tell him that I wasn't interested, that I could never get with a friend of an ex because it wasn't a nice thing to do. He then went and asked my ex if it would be ok for us to get together and my ex said YES. This hurt me a lot, nothing happened that night anyway but I think it was probably the basis for what happened next!The next night I was out with a few of my girlfriends celebrating the end of exams. I was very very drunk and ended up kissing not one but two of my ex's friends. My ex texted me at about 3 in the morning giving out about me being with his friends. I should have apologised there and then, I shouldn't even have done anything in the first place because it was a horrible thing to do! But since I was still drunk I was really pathetic and basically ruined the whole cool "so over you" thing I had going on. I defended my behaviour and was an absolute b**** to him.I texted him again the next morning apologising, no reply. He came in to where I work a few days later and ignored me. The only time I've talked to him since was when I met him walking down the street the other day, we were both alone and there wasn't really any avoiding talking. We small talked for a few minutes and then he made a excuse to leave. But while we were talking, it was like old times. He was smiling, didn't look uncomfortable at all. So now I'm confused!I think the main problem I have is why we broke up. I don't mean to sound full of myself but I'm a pretty girl, I'm not stupid or boring either. I don't understand why he wouldn't want to try and work things out. I really liked him, can't stand thinking that he hates me now and I ruined any chance there was of us getting back together over something I did when I was drunk. I suppose my question is how can I fix things? Or should I just move on?Sorry this was so long, thanks so much for reading! Any advice at all would be appreciated. :)
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reader, Loveless Marriage  +, writes (5 July 2009):
He felt he didn't know you after 4 months???? Thank God!! I would hate to date someone I knew after only 4 months, how dull could they be?!?! I would move on, I would feel a little strange pursuing a relationship with someone that wanted someone they could know in 4 months and even more uncomfortable with a guy that gives his friend "permission" to pursue me as though he were my pimp and I his cheap hooker. But, of course, that's just me! Good Luck!
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