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writes:hi everyone.i was with a very beautiful girl. shes i guess one of the most beautiful girl in the city. but shes no good other than looks. im not the most good looking guy around, but i have a fantastic personality. id loved her selflessly, i considered her my life. but nothing went good.I started losing trust on her for few reasons.1.she has a roving eye. she stares guys, even when im with her. she makes eye contact with all hot guys crossing by. she does it subconsciously i guess, but she never stopped the habit even after i pointed it out.2.she tells guys that its ok to send her stupid dirty messages and they forward to her cheap messages.3.i found out that she had a friend before me, she had asked him what all he did to his girlfriend, all about sexual intercourse. this guy was a friend of her. i considered this as extremely cheap. And these guy use to send her very cheap forward messages about sex andn dirty stuff. i don know if this is considered to be ok with young friends, for me its bad.4.shes a liar. she hides all those things which she thinks will cause fight between us. if i don't like her talking to some guy, she still talks to him n delete their conversation records n texts.5.shes not serious. she does not realize that she is committed to me. she doesn't keep her guy friends in limits. if im not around, shes definitely with some of her guy friend on text on phone. id loved her with all my heart. but all these bad things were killing me. so i started fighting. i turned so insecure. And i started losing trust. And if im fighting to her on something, she fights back, she never teaches me or corrects me or calm me down. we were having fights every other day.And one day she went with a guy who flirted with her n proposed her. she didn't tell me, and when i asked her, she lied. They spent 5-6 hours together, she was with him in a car. And they had lunch n stuff. after convincing her, she told me many things. she said that hes a nice guy, he didn't even touch her. its her fault. she shouldn't have had went with him like that.I broke up with her. but she says that she has changed. shes guilty and she wants me back no matter what. she cries badly. she even cut her hand, not nerves, a few places. she asks me to thrash her, hurt her, but she doesn't want me to leave her.what shall i do. does she deserves a chance? do i stand wrong somewhere? should i forgive her.?? will i ever be able to gain trust on her?? people, i need your advice. what is it, that i should be doing now? i don't have have much friends, because im focused on my career. so if i go completely away from her, i'l be all alone. im afraid if i go away from her, someone will use her :(
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reader, LaLaLoo123  +, writes (7 June 2011):
I think you should Give her a chance but have a talk before you get back with her about all the problems and just tell her how she made you feel, tell her you want to commit to her and that you want her all to you, but do what your heart says, do you love her? if you do then show her you do, and take her back
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reader, ClearSorted +, writes (7 June 2011):
Hi,
By what story you tell I derive that this wouldnt be a long term relation. Is she maniac, which girl would ask to being submitted to be hurt. Most certainly either you are giving her expensive gifts that she is willing to be with you or she is gaining members for her fan club to be around and chat and gossip around. Dont complain just about her. I want to tell you straight in face, that you are with her as she is beautiful or in your words most beautiful besides being your only friend to hangout. My funda is clear:- Better to have no company than fall in bad one. If you commit to longterm with this girl, what she does is different, U ll certainly continue to doubt her and she'll hide things maybe even if geniune. Take your heart out before its too late. My question for you to ponder on - say if her face disfigures very badly will you standby her?You shall get the answer yourself howmuch you "love" her. Take care.
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reader, Jen1689  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 Wow. No, no, no, no, NO! She does not deserve a second chance. Why in the Hell would you want to be with someone who's got shit for a personality and shit for loyalty? That makes no sense. So she's pretty... Who CARES?! She's using that to get to people, and when her looks fads, she'll be nothing and have nothing. She'll drag you down, too, if you let her. People like this girl are scum and are sociopaths and manipulators who will go to any - and I mean ANY - lengths to get what they want. In her case, it's having her cake and eating it, too. She wants the "commitment" from you in a relationship, but wants the thrill and excitement of being single by lying to you repeatedly about it. She claims she's changed? I doubt it. She will tell you anything you want to hear to get her way. If she wants you back, she will feign love and devotion and enlightenment to convince you that she's worthy because she knows she's not. She cut her hand? Talk about desperation. She's foolish and ridiculous to do something like that over a guy that she lied to and hurt over and over. It's her own fault that it happened, and if she were TRULY sorry, she wouldn't harm herself to guilt you or scare you into staying with you. That's selfish, immature, and absolutely ridiculous. If she's going to threaten harm to herself, let her do it. It's not your fault if she's crazy and is willing to do that. DO NOT take her back. You will regret it a thousand times over. Believe it or not, there are girls out there with looks AND a personality. If you waste your time with this mess, you'll never find her. Good luck.
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 Don't take her back.. You can do MUCH better. Like you said, all she is is a pretty face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): no no no no no no no no dont even go there - beautiful women and nothing more = TROUBLE
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