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writes:I have a problem. I like a guy who is really brilliant and has always been straight with me. He says he fancies me too, However he told me not to expect a relationship.I'm sleeping with him and all he says is 'we'll see' about the relationship thing or 'I'm still thinking'. I don't understand why he won't just call what we have a relationship. I won't demand more and he knows this. Other people are starting to know about what is going on and rumours are going round. It makes me feel cheap and like a slag - my good guy friend keeps trying it on and because I feel down. I flirt with him and stuff in order to try and provoke a reaction from the guy I really like. But all this makes me feel cheap, I really like this guy and I think he likes me but I don't understand or know what to do. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): You can't screw any guy into a relationship. Either he'll give you an exclusive relationship or he won't, but you can't force his hand with any amount of sex. You're feeling more bonded to him by the sex, and he's not.
It's good for you to learn this hard lesson now. It will spare you a lot of heartache for the rest of your single life. Sex won't do anything to turn a casual relationship with a guy into an exclusive one.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Keep your options open.
Go out with other guys and see you will provoke any jealous
reactions from him or get him down from that pedestal.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): You feel cheap, because he's treating you cheap. He treating you like a slut, good enough for sex but not good enough for a relationship. I wouldn't even call you a "F*ck buddy", he's not your friend, he dosen't treat you as a friend. He treats you so bad that people are begining to laugh at you and talk. He knows you love him, so he uses you. He dosen't think you will turn him away.
Gain some self respect, stop letting this man treat you this way. If you continue to give him cheap sex, you will get a reputation and other people will start to treat you with disrespect as well.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Your being used as a f**k buddy. Chances are there will be no relationship. Just dump him and get it over with
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 Tell him that you've decided that you don't want to have sex without a relationship. Then stick to it. Waterloo is completely spot on here. Don't let yourself be used by this guy.
If it were me, I'd have dumped his sorry carcass by now.
So stand tall, be firm, and do NOT settle for this treatment.
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (4 June 2008):
sounds to me like he doesnt want to close the door on the oppertunity of other women. If he cant call it a relationship then this wont be a good one, with a long life.
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reader, princeofsorrow +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I think he he only really wants you for the sex.I don't mean to be tactless, but think about. You say he's great bu maybe your infatuation has got the better of you. Take my impartial advice. He doesn't want anything more than sex. He doesn't want to tell you that you're basically his 'fuck buddy', beacause he knows you won;t continue with it.Sorry my dear but it seems the sex is the only thing to this relationship. You know this because you feel cheap. It's women's intuition, something we guys don't have.I want you to talk to him. Ask him again if he wants a proper relationship. If he still says 'thinking about it', then ask him if he only really wants you for the sex and gauge his reaction. If he says yes then it's up to you about what to do. Do you continue have casual sex, or do you allow yourself to move on and have a wholesome realtionship.If he says 'no, it's not just about the sex, then you need to have a proper talk and see whats delaying his decision.Hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): You are sleeping with him and he tells you that he will see about a relationship, dump this creep. He is using you for sex and nothing else. You will never make anything of this tw*t as long as he has a hole in his a*se!!! sorry to be so blunt, but that is how i see it. When you meet someone properly then they wont come out with statements like that, you will be in a relationship full stop. Stop giving him sex and boot the loser out of your life, you do deserve better, so dont settle for less.
take care
xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 June 2008):
 I think he's using you for sex. Stop giving it to him and see what happens.
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