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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been in a relationship with a man for 10 months now and we are totally in love with each other. He left his kids 24, 20 and 15yrs and wife of 23 years and moved to a flat to be nearer to me and work. I ended my relationship with my partner of 6 years (with whom I have a 14month old baby with). Our relationship is not common knowledge as we were both in relationships when it started and as we work together it would have made things difficult however we were about to "tell the world". The problem now is that my lover has discovered that he has a heart condition that HE believes will shorten his life and thinks he will end up needing surgery (he is waiting to see a specialist). He returned to his marital home (40min drive away) whilst he was really poorly as his kids didn't want him alone in his flat. But now he has decided that he is going to move back there permenantly (but not reconcile his relationship with wife) and make the most of life with his kids. He is leaving work in a weeks time and also ending our relationship. I am devastated and so is he. We have both spent the week in tears and are distraught but there is no way he will change his mind, he says his kids come first and he cant let them down. How can he turn his back on our relationship like that when its clearly so perfect? If he has to have surgery he could live for many more years but i dont understand how he can live with his ex-wife all this time? And what happens when his kids move out? He will still be stuck there unhappy? Please help, i'm struggling to get through a day at the moment, i'm dreading the day when he leaves for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): married men almost always go back to their wives........and they blame it on their kids......strange how the mistresses almost always believe this lie. your married man went back because he wanted to. end of story. such a harsh lesson to be learnt in life. he destroyed his wife by leaving her for you, and he expects to go back as though nothing happened. lets hope his wife has more sense to kick him out of her life once and for all. after all he did that to her, didn't he. now he expects her to see to him during his "dying" days. this man really does expect miracles, doesn't he. selfish man who always gets what he wants. strange how he has kept you his dirty little secret for the time you both have been together. you are better of without him, his wife too. leave the poorly unhealthy adulterer to fend for himself. he has had it so good for too long. time for him to get what he deserves. you are welcome to him, that is if you are happy with your secret sordid life. it speaks volumes of him, leaving you. show exactly what you mean to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): I truly feel sorry for you,but its a well known fact that married men never leave their wives and if they do they almost certainly go back as the grass is rarely greener on the other side
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