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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay....Well the thing is i really like my best friend's boyfriend... simple? not reallyMy friend Sara* and her boyfriend *Paul went out and broke up.... Paul and i became really close friends and he asked me for alot of help and advice.Him and Sara got back together last week but the thing is i like him...i wasn't going to tell him cause i knew he still liked Sarah But my friend *Emma told me to tell Paul i like him or she would if i wanted him to know or not.. so i told him cause it was better me admitting it before someone else told him... (I'm still not happy about that..)Luckily though our friendship hasn't changed cause i told him...Sarah and Him back together... and the both of them are my best and are two of my closest friends...I now feel really weird alot of the time when i'm around them both together and they both started to feel kinda bad once they realised that i feel awkward at times and i told them not to....I really don't want these feelings for him it causes too much confusion and it makes everything complicated and i'm scared it will eventually effect our friendship... more me and Sara's than Paul's cause Sara has been my best friend for 10 years and this is the first time something like this has happened...I really want to get over him without Avoiding him etc... cause i can't suddenly stop talking to him and i know what people say i'ts not fair on them and i know it....I need a way to get over him quickly without falling out with him or Sara.....Help?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Thas a hard one- there is no easy way to stop liking someone- I guess you cant help who you like. You will just have to rationalise the value of your friendship with Sarah versus a possable date with this guy- who after a few dates you may go not like anyway or vice versa - and then lose your 10 yr friendship with Sarah. It sounds like Sarah and you have a good friendship espeailly when she now knows that you like her boyfirend and she is still quite comfortable about having you around. Also Paul seems to be very into Sarah and seemed to keep a friendship with you in order to be close to Sarah and get her back- so he obviously likes her more- So my advise is give it up and keep your friendship with Sarah as you deserve to be first choice not second. As that what you will be with him as he had to work hard to get Sarah back and came to you for advise- so he see's it as friendship and as a way of being closer to Sarah. Goodluck and remember you want a guy that picks you as first choice and go's to your friends for advise on how to get you back.
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