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*aydreamer08
writes:Hi there, so me and my gf have been in a Long distance relationship for about a month and 18 days now, but recently something really strange happened last week. I called and texed her but she didn't reply or call back (which she usually does). i was really worried so i asked one of her friends and she told me that she's been really stressed out and has been acting strange. This really confused me because if there are problems wouldn't she want to call me and talk about it and not just ignore me? i dont know why she dont want to share her problems with me, i mean we are a couple after all. we recently started talking again after 6 days but i am just really confused as to why my gf did that. i dont want to bring up the subject cause i am scared she might get mad or depressed. Can someone please help me out. thanks
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Maybe she just can't talk about anything about it. Simple as that. I think the best thing you can do is be an understanding boyfriend and give her the time she needs to get back on her feet herself. Time is all it will take from you. You're not to blame for anything. She'll be stronger eventually if she deals with it on her own than calling to you every single time. Not to be harsh but that's how it sometimes goes. You're bound to be confused but don't let confusion be what guides your decision. Really think it through and be the best man you can be. She'll appreciate you more for it in a way too. If she needs you, she'll come to you. If she doesn't need you, be proud that she's such a strong girl. Just keep doing what you ussually do and let her know that she can always depend on you. Don't force her to tell you, maybe it's not what will help you because for all you know, you couldn't fix the problem either. As for yourself, try not to be 'too' worried, it will only cloud your eyes and your decisions. Try make decisions when you're at peace. you can make yourself proud too.
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reader, monkiegurl +, writes (20 January 2010):
a long distance relationship is hard i've been doing it for 2 yrs but he's home now. and i would just ask her, what's the worset that could happen? she might hang up on you and want to be left alone because its that bothersome and she doesnt want to talk about it. but Just ask her straight up,because if it bothers you that much you will always have that in the make of your mind wondering "why she was ignoring me for a couple days" and you might want to ask sooner then later and once you do she'll either tell you nothing i was just frustrated about whatever and it really was nothing and wanted to be left alone for a bit OR she'll tell what was possibably bothering her at that time? what are you worried about? the most common worry anybody has even when they are in the same town "are they really being faithful to be?" yah that could be a possiablity but until you ask her you'll never know
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