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*arecooldude
writes:Actually my girlfriend has started behaving strangely from past few days..we are in a long distance relationship and now we are going to complete our 2 months.so here my problem goes..we have met just 2-3 times then we came in a relationship on whatsapp..firstly we use to talk frequently means many times a day but now frequency is decreasing regularly!she says everytime she loves me a lot..and all that stuff..as we have to meet next week (as preplaned by us) she started avoiding me..we had sex chat on phone..at the time we met she was a little depressed but she never told me the exact reason..i think she dont want to meet me..and she was just with me to erase her past (i guess)when ever she sees me online she signs off..but then also continuossly she use to say that she loves me and cant live without me..i dont know exactly what she wants actually..please help me
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reader, darecooldude +, writes (24 May 2013):
darecooldude is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx wiseowle..i am totally satisfied with your answer.I will try my best to forgot her but its very difficult for me because i have loved her more than my life..!!:(and i also wanna add that we didnot met online.Actually i have gone to her city 3 months back for some work, there she and i had a common friend.so we shared our fb addresses and all.Then we became friends online and now we are in a so called relationship..
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reader, darecooldude +, writes (24 May 2013):
darecooldude is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthnx wiseowle..
i am totally satisfied with your answer.
I will try my best to forgot her but its very difficult for me because i have loved her more than my life..!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): I think you're old enough to know that most people start online long-distance relationships to fantasize. They have virtual romances that get hot and cold, until they finally fizzle out. Then it's on to the next person, once they get bored.You should never take these "so-called" relationships too seriously. You should only let your feelings get involved, when you have dated a girl several times in-person. You have gotten to know things about them, you establish something real, and it lasts for a long time after you have met.People can say they love you a thousand times, and not mean it. You're caught up in a fantasy romance that has reached it's expiration date. She is online to meet different people. She'll satisfy her curiosity by meeting you, and probably liked you online better than in real life. You may have creeped her out, or scared her a little. You are a little too serious and come off way too needy.If you spend a lot of time playing around on a computer with phony personalities, you're just going to get your feelings hurt a lot. You can't carry on a real relationship on your smartphone or computer. Time to grow up and face reality, my friend.It's easy pretending you are special to some girl who lives miles or continents away. Living out a fairytale; as if you'll fall in love, and be together someday. If you knew the real odds against that happening, you wouldn't waste your time or hers.Just continue meeting girls online. Only next time, try to find girls you can actually date; who live within a reasonable driving distance. Can you handle that?Stop settling for long-distance online dating; because you can't bring yourself to deal with rejection from a real-live girl. Maybe you find it easier to hide behind a screen and a made-up profile. They eventually do want to meet you; and if you don't live up to it, they're gone in a flash.Pretending is for children. She has played with you long enough, and she is now looking for a new online playmate.It is likely she already has several, and many more to come.Sometimes these girls you meet online have real boyfriends, and just chat online for entertainment. Sometimes foreigners just get in touch with people overseas; so they'll have a place to stay and a built-in travel guide when they finally get to travel to that country.Now delete her from your list of friends and contacts on the website, and start reading some new profiles. My advice is not meant to hurt your feelings. My words are meant to wake you up, and snap you back to reality. So you won't let these girls hurt you too deeply. I realize you genuinely liked her. You now must face the fact, that she doesn't like you in-person, as much as she did online.
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