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female
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30-35,
*oss04
writes:I met my LDR boyfriend online on a dating website, I live in a different country. He wants to meet me next year, now i am not comfortable to have sex before marriage. Now he has forcibly made me delete my account on the website right a month we met. He says I love you, i can't see you speaking to other guys, We made plans that next year he will come to stay with me in my country either by working or studying. now what confuses me is this, he says if you want gain my trust now that i am away from you, dont talk to other guys online and listen to me. he says i dont want you talking to other men but after we meet up if we fuck, I would feel more comfortable with you talking to them because i know you're all mine now. he knows i am a virgin, he says he really loves me and wants to marry me. he says i need you to be submissive, dont question me stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2015): Takes one to know one... Especially when someone is so paranoid over you possibly cheating!!
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reader, Mvpo81  +, writes (14 March 2015):
Omg
No man should have that control over you. You have every right to talk to whoever you want. Sounds like he is emotionally and mentally blackmailing you in to doing something you don't believe in. If he loved you as he said he would respect your decision to wait till your married and he would trust you.
Stay strong
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 March 2015):
 Did he really say "fuck"? What a romantic.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 March 2015):
 It means he believes in the right of men to "own" women and tell them what they can do and who they can do it with.
He views you as his property.
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reader, Ross04 +, writes (13 March 2015):
Ross04 is verified as being by the original poster of the question what does archaic relationship mean ????
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 March 2015):
He says he loves you but he does not. He can't. He's never met you.
You say you are confused but you are not asking a question so what is your question???
this guy is no good. He's bad news. He has not met you and yet he's trying to tell you what you can and cannot do and who you cannot and cannot talk to.
His ideas of relationships are archaic. And to be honest he may NOT be who he says he is... after all you have never met him.
Can you put into words what you are trying to figure out. I do not want to tell you what to do but I want to help you figure out how to ask the question you are afraid to ask which is "is this how men treat women they love?"
the answer is NO.... this is not how a loving man treats his woman.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (13 March 2015):
 If he isn't with you physically then how can he be forcing you to do something? You are ALLOWING him to control you and tell you what to do. Why is that? Food for thought..if he's this controlling over the internet what on earth do you think he would be like in person?? You might want to rethink this relationship. I'd be a little afraid of a man who tells me I need to be submissive.
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reader, Ross04 +, writes (13 March 2015):
Ross04 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe wouldnt trust me, he would keep saying youre so far away, now that we are togther and i wish to marry you. you dont need to be on the website.
he says i dont want you to talk to other guys now. once i come to meet you and we fuck , you can talk to guys cause i know that youre all mine,
he has trust issues. i keep telling him to trust me. he says i love you, but i also am sexually attracted to you cause youre a virgin, i dont want to loose you. he says i wont leave you after we fuck. he plans to marry, he sees me as his wife already.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 March 2015):
 He sounds like a controlling psycho. How is it HIS choice who you talk to?
And how did he "make" you delete your account? Did he threaten to end the "relationship"? if so, you should have ended it.
Tell him to go fly a kite you are NOT his property.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (13 March 2015):
What do you mean by forcibly? You've never even met him.
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